2006-07-05 22:25:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
The borderline makes "frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment" see the movie "Fatal Attraction". Make her feel safe and secure, if you want to stick around, and this will be difficult for reasons in the book "I hate you, don't leave me". Also, this comes out of severe child abuse almost always sexual abuse. The good news is the afflicted outgrow the disorder, usually starting in late 30's or early 40's. And, this disorder is often misdiagnosed as it mimics other disorders such as PTSD. See DSMIV for criteria in diagnosing, which you cannot do, only a doctor. Some other good news, the BPD is capable of love if her needs are met. She will need lots of therapy and lots of reassurance, but the need dissipates as she grows stronger. And a diagnosis of "full remission" is possible with hard work. Good luck and a weekly therapy session for you to cope is a good idea. Take special care of her, she has had a hard life or she wouldn't have the disorder in the first place. Peace
2006-07-05 22:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dealing with a borderline anything is difficult enough...but Borderline Personality disorders make even sane people crazy.
If you have someone in your life that makes you crazy like that...
my advice is, be direct...but be kind.
stay focused on the issue at hand and disallow excuse making.
the excuse goes no where - but back to her...encourage her to be "the difference she wishes to see in the world".
Most importantly - don't use scripts or labels that have already been used...she will cue on those and once you use them...you become "like everyone else".
Insist that she be responsible for her own actions.
it's a tall order... but it can be done.
My neighbor is BPD...you'd think I was her best buddy because she always comes to me with her troubles...
she comes on her terms...when it's right for her...
and I listen.
I honor her story...i take everything she tells me for face value and as the honest truth...and I work with that.
2006-07-06 05:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean Borderline Personality Disorder? Whew, that's difficult. I'd be as neutral as possible, and mostly keep out of her way. I'd also control the area for sharps. Really.
2006-07-06 05:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy and possibly medication. Just remember that she often doesn't see things from a rational perspective. You may have to discount a lot of what she says.
2006-07-06 05:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by klunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that one. I have BPD and I can't even control myself. Seriously.
2006-07-06 05:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by Pinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say therapy, and professional help. There's also some sites out there that would work wonders =)
2006-07-06 05:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by XxDJToxic420xX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, Forest, Run!
2006-07-06 14:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by climbikehikefoodandwine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋