What should a married man do if he is very attracted to other women but still loves his wife???

Question

This is my situation:
I'm 32,married,I also can say ,without bragging,that women are interested in me,I love my wife very much,she is very gealous(sadly with reasons),I am also religious in my own unique way,but I"M VERY ATTRACTED TO OTHER WOMEN.
Sometimes is really a torture to me....and I don't know what should I do...I don't want to hurt my wife(again)but if a women is flirting with me I forget easily about that.

Thank you all for your replies !

Answer 1

You are not as committed to marriage as your upringing tried to instill in you. You are sexually single minded. Your wife needs to know what she is dealing with and should have the right to have marriage councilling with you...and when she knows exactly where you are coming from...she has the right to leave this relationship ...because you are not what she bargained for. Good luck Ps I agree with i luv dogs...you should make your wife the center of your universe...take her on weekends away like as if she were a new woman that you are seeing for the first time...if you can't focus on her...then it is not going to work out between you.

Answer 2

Well if other women are attracted to you you are NOT bragging. Women are attracted to almost and guy with or without the necessary tools. You're not special.

Even though you are asking this question, I would say you have already made up your mind. Just try to be discreet. Sex other then what you have with you wife is of no benefit to you other then a very brief orgasm and the thrill of the chase. Remember, it is only your testicles that make you think the way you do at the moment. If you put all of that into perspective it gets much easier to tell the hos to just p!ss off.

Answer 3

I'd start by praying. Then, have a open, honest, and sincere talk with your wife. Take all the mystery and suspense out of it. Let her know what's going on, how you feel, and ask for her help. Getting married obviously doesn't turn off the libido. Men are hard-wired to notice. But, acting on your urges is a decision. You need to decide whether or not you intend to be faithful. Entertaining thoughts, that if your wife could read your mind, would hurt her is a step toward divorce court. If you really love her, tell. Then resolve to live that decision every day.

Answer 4

You have to make a decision here. Which is more important to you, your wife or these other women. If you really love your wife, it's an easy decision to make. If not, get a divorce so you can enjoy single life again. Whatever you do, don't torture your wife or leave her in limbo. Be open with her about your feelings and try to work through it together. Be a man.

Answer 5

many people just want what they don't have. if u r only sexually attracted to them so ur wife can provide all the sex u need.... great she is jealous for reasons. u should set ur priorities straight and start cherishing the love u have or else u will lose all and u will never realize what u have untill u lose it. ur wife will not tolerate for long... God be with u. it is really hard but when u remember the love u have, u will just forget about all the flirts..

Answer 6

well u really should stop that i know every one likes to be flirted by others but its just a temporary thing u will descover that u r not happy if u left ur wife
no one can say i cant control my self or feelings u can ur wife dosnt deserve to be cheated on even with feeling or mind so u have to quit what u r doing if u dun want to so u have to stop ur marrige before as a respect to ur wife and so she can be free to do the same
beside imagin that ur wife is doin what ur doing?!
wih u luck and right desisions

Answer 7

You just one some to tell you that is OK to go and go for the other woman your only human c'mon.
but before you do think of this. you will loose half of what you own, plus child support if you have a kid, oh and you also probably loose your house.
But again how fine is that other girl, if she is Jessica Alba hot then do it damn it, do it.
but if you get caught don't apologize take it like a man and admit a prepare to loose the house, the car, the kids, THAT'S WHY IS CHEAPER TO KEEP HER EVEN IF YOU HATE HER.
OH AND BY THE WAY IF YOUR ARE MARRIED FOR MORE THEN THEN TEN YEARS IN CALIFORNIA ALLEMONY FOR LIFE DAMN THE LAWS ARE CRUEL.

P.S. I say do it if your sure your not gonna get caught.

Answer 8

I think there is a wise old saying and it goes like this "look but don't touch". I believe that if you truly love your wife then you should not easily forget about it because if you break that wise old saying rule then you know your wife will be hurt very much.

Answer 9

i have just recently been in that situation, i am not married and 42, i was in love with the guy, he told me 6 years later he lived a double life, will now he lost everything wife family,business his Lexus and job, definitely me it doesn't pay in the long run, your getting older stay with the wife and the other thing will eventually grow its way out......go away,have faith because if she worth more than life to you you can make some sacrifices, and that's the other women out their if it sex, than let it be that and only that, my grandma use to say it makes your relation stronger,if you are going to be a player in life know how to play the game,don,t mess it up.

Answer 10

It is natural for men to notice other women and vice versa but you are in a committed relationship and you need to honor your wife by respecting her and not letting the attraction make you do something hurtful. Perhaps you both should seek counseling. Set your priorities and follow through.

Answer 11

Pray

People, that is Women, and Men often believe they want what they believe that they cannot, or should not obtain, often times once they have it, they no longer appreciate it.

Be thankful that you have a good woman whom loves you, as there are men in this world whom envy you.

I have often noticed that when I was with a woman dating, or married other woman flirted with me constantly, I believe that they just wanted to know with in themselves if they could take me from my love, and I did not allow that to happen.

However on the flip side of the coin, when I have been single, the opposite is often true, and you get no one.

Please be happy you have someone special, and do not take her for granted.