i seperate from my hubbie of six years five months ago because he cheated on me even do he loves me (so he says), the thing is i still love even do iam with someone else at this time but i can't or don't know how to move on because it still hurts what he did to me like if it was yesterday and i don't know why, so this is the last resource that i have so i am hoping someone can help me.
2006-07-05 20:30:50 · 22 answers · asked by Carly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i say, if he cheated on you, hes not worth your loving, or your caring, let him go by forgetting. like, everytime he walks by, smile and laugh like yr having fun, or wen yr alone and u c him, ignore him. u heal a broken heart by finding the stiches.
2006-07-07 01:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by La_Di_Da 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have been married for 20 years, my husband cheated on me a couple times years ago...that didn't make me stop loving him and I stayed with him even though it hurt real bad it would hurt more to be away from him. I am so sorry for your hurt its never fair when that happens I wish you two could have worked it out because it sounds like you love him alot. You don't have to get divorced just because of a sexual encounter but I am sure it was more than that. I think it will just take you time to move on, find someone else to fill the void, find more than one someone else if thats what it takes to get through the pain. Is there any chance you can get back together with him?
2006-07-05 20:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by feather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is impossible that someone you love could never hurt you so go for someone who is worth the pain.
only time can heal your broken heart but there are ways to somehow overcome it. just think of the times when you were a child and don't have an idea that he existed. you were happy and enjoying your childhood with friends and family right? i know its really hard to overcome it specially if you really love the guy. just let it be. cry if you want to cry love him if you still love him just be sure to keep it yourself for the meantime. if you dont love your present bf you should breakup with him to simplify the situation and be fair with both sides. it doesnt mean that just because your bf cheated on you, you have to force yourself in entertaining someone. its really better to have time for yourself and friends after breaking up coz thats the time that you realize you are strong and your relationship with him had made you a better person. it's ok to remenisce the goodtimes and sweet moments you have that way you can analyze why are you going through all this pain and the love you two shared is worth the pain. if he comes back to you and you still love him keep your cool and be real for yourself. do whatever makes you happy, fight for what you believe is right. ask for god's grace and do not focus on what other people will think.coz that decision will surely change your life so you have to think it over and do what's best for you and everybody where you are not going to regret it.
godbless.
2006-07-05 20:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Magnificent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a born again Christian? Is your husband? Then go to your church and talk with your pastor. If not, then find a good Bible based church and find a relationship with God's Son, Jesus, and yo will find the answers in the Bible. You should not nor should he be with anyone other than the one you married. Get away from whomever you are with and give your life to Jesus and He will heal your broken heart. Do not continue to cheapen yourself with an adulterous affair. Adultry is breaking one of the Ten Commandments and it is not worth it. If you are not saved, read Romans, make the choice to go to Heaven as the alternative is Hell, and it is your choice and a free choice and you do not want to wait another second as you neve know when you may be taken from this world and you will live for eternity, you choose where, paradise or fire. Have a blessed week.
2006-07-05 20:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by BONNIE GLASS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love him and want him then that is what you should do. In your heart you will have to forgive him if that is what you want. My wife did the same thing to me almost in the same time frame and I have waited as long as I am going to. She left me and cheated on me and she will not come back, even for our two sons that love me dearly because she would have to forgive herself and I do not think she will. If you want him you should get him before someone else does. If he is a good man, and the day you decide to go to him and begin, you find he has just left town with some one that got there just before you did. Be careful what you throw away, others root through the throw aways and like what they find.
2006-07-05 20:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Carly!
Well, imagine life is like a Marathon race!
In order to be able to run this distance you have to work out a lot! Unfortunately, even love and loved ones do not last for ever! At the time we are with one, we really work out like this person is our love for ever, but, ....
Thus, after you brake, think of those feelings, like the preparation for a race much longer! Don't see it as something useless, but some time creative, happy (I wish), and educational! Take strength, rather than bed feelings towards you and the other person! Definitely, six years is long, but life is longer!
2006-07-05 20:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by soubassakis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has to suffer from a broken heart at somepoint in their life from something. I had my heart broke in much the same way you did! My fiance cheated on me then he denied ever dating me in the first place to the girl making me look like an idiot! I moved on and he tried to get me back! Just try your hardest and trust me it will hurt but push him away. you said you were with someone else now. put yourself in the relationship you are currently in stop dwelling on the past. he cheated once he will do it again! Don't trust him again! Take it from me you are better off!
2006-07-05 20:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by *~*~*BABYDOLL*~*~* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am totally with you on this one. There is very little that anyone can say to make you feel better. I couldn't imagine that type of pain. Only time will help what happened. You need to find closure and talk to someone about your feelings of hurt. Write down your feelings. Sometimes that helps as well.
2006-07-05 20:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by questionMD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, since u're with someone...The healing process should go better. Some people just stay focused on their love, and never get involved with anyone else...
I think, you have to let it go...it was in the past. Just move on with ur life...
I hope you'll make it
Take care
2006-07-05 20:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by SpaceCowboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm truly sorry that you had to go through that. I think its best to try and focus on your new relationship but only if you think there's a chance it will work out. If not I suggest you break up with new guy...it really isn't fair to him. When you are feeling really low tell yourself that what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. You will get through this a stronger person. Wishing u all the best of luck.
2006-07-05 20:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by amanda k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lokk at the bad side of your relation.You have given 6 years of your life to a man who cheated you! Now someone else is there to guide you through the way so consider him as GOD SENT AND FORGET THE CHEATER. Whenever you remember him try to recollect the misery, pain and emotional turmoil you have been through.
2006-07-05 20:35:40 · answer #11 · answered by dipti r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋