do u believe u should wait 2 have sex after marrige?

Answer 1

Just like buying a car without driving it...You could be stuck with a LEMON! Try before you buy!!

Answer 2

Yes! How special do you think that moment would be once you're married and can have sex with the one that you're going to stay for the rest of your life? And if he's a virgin, that would be amazing to be able to experience it together! Your talking about some awesome fireworks! Sure the first time might not be as smooth as a porn flick, but you got your whole life to get really good at it. And your husband won't have to worry that you would have a few STD's & you don't have to worry about pregnacy! Also if you never had sex before you can't compair your husband with anybody else so you won't be disatified! How would you feel if your future husband is screwing around with another woman? I sure don't even like the thought of that! So don't do that to him either! For more information check out, "Boy meets Girl" by Joshua Harris, He rocks!!! Trust me, it will all be worth it!

Answer 3

That is a good question, let's see, call it in the air, HEADS, head it is and I win. NO I think that part of the compatibility of people is sexual compatibility and it should be part of the equation when selecting a mate. I know I want the best and if I cannot open the package to see what I am going to get how can I be sure that is what will work or what I want? Next answer let's flip again that was fun. Do not flip coins with your relationships the odds are always 50-50.

Answer 4

While I appreciate the Christian perspective of abstinence prior to marriage...I have to say that our society has evolved well beyond the religious purpose to marriage and "replenishing the earth" - news flash - the Earth has been replenished...

That doesn't mean that marriage has lost it's meaning...it's extremely meaningful...the purpose has subtly shifted.

So has society.

Sex...an act of measureable pleasure for humans alone...
yes I know they did studies for whales that demonstrated a pleasure response...but if you read the measurements...and took a proportional ratio to humans...that measurement would equate to the same pleasure you get at the hair salon when someone washes your hair.

Anyways...we are the only creature on Earth that has sex for pleasure...women possess a body part (the clitoris) with one pupose only...sexual stimulation...

Because of this...humans draw an immense sense of intimate unity from sexual contact and it IS a large part of any relationship. It becomes part of a monogamous marriage. Afterall...what happens when a spouse has sex OUTSIDE the marriage???

So for this reason and for the purpose of relationship building, pre-marital sex is a strong consideration.

Waiting until your married is unwise because if it proves a bad experience...you are stuck with "for better or worse" bouncing around in your head.

Answer 5

Certainly. Unlike the poor people who choose to see sex as "test driving" a car, sex is not the same. Sex is not something to deal with lightly. It is part of your humanity. Without sexuality, you would cease to be human. That does not mean virgins are not people.

When you wait until after marriage to have sex, you are able to give your entire being to your spouse. It's like trying to give a you-shaped cookie to your spouse, but, each time you had sex before them, it's like breaking off part of that cookie to give to someone else. By the time your spouse gets it, it's not you anymore, is it?

Marrying someone means giving all of you to them, and you should want to be able to say, " I waited and kept this incredibly important part of who I am for you, and I want to share it with you beacuse I love you that much."

Sex is a gift to humanity and should be a gift to your partner. Sex is more important that doing what "feels" good at the time. Don't listen to the media's lies about your own physical importance.

Answer 6

No, but wait until you are comfortable with someone and can prepare yourself emotionally for anything to happen with the relationship (a break-up down the road, the other person getting attached to you or the possibility of a life long relationship with the person).

With some of my encounters and my friends encounters before marriage...I wouldn't recommend waiting until you are married. Some of the nicest men can just surprise you with how rough they are with sex.

I think, it is just better to not have sex too early in a relationship but before you are married.

Answer 7

absolutely ... marrige is not all about sex if it so then u dont need to be married u can always have sex with porn ... well in my society it's never accepted without marrige and i think if the guy is afriend to the girl and also have sex with her she can forget the marrige because he already have it all ..

Answer 8

Definitely. Read your Bible, it is God's law although a lot of people ignore it. If you sleep around and not wait, you will be continually reminded of the others you have been with. God reserves sex for married people as it is a special association that is not to be shared with anyone other thaan your spouse and certainly not discussed in public situations. God is a God of second chances and remember He put us here for His purpose and pleasure first and formost and when He is #1, your life with your intended, will be wonderful. Have a blessed marriage.

Answer 9

If you feel you are mature enough, and are not a minor trying to have sex with an adult, by all means, dive right in.

You better use contraception and at least one condom to protect yourself from viruses.

Try not to get herpes or warts around your in your mouth (kissing) genitals or anal area.. Herpes is very painful.
When you get herpes, it's for life.
When it breaks out around your mouth, every knows you had oral sex... especially your parents and teachers.
It will also be in your permanent record.

If you get pregnant at a young age, it could paralize you from the waist down for life, if the baby moves around inside you and rips out your spinal cord.

Now go ahead, and have fun! and don't forget, you will think of AIDS and VD the whole time youre doing it.

Now go on, have sex.
Enjoy!

Answer 10

that all depends on you and your partner. If you firmly believe that sex should come after marriage, then stick to your guns. if your iffy on the situation, then yall need to sit down and discuss this. I personally didnt wait, and while sometimes i wished my husband had been my first, im glad for the (few) other sexual expeirences i'd had. I dont think you should wait, i think if you love some one its a beautiful thing to share.

Answer 11

this all depends on you.

there are many views to this especially due to different religous and cultural backgrounds of people.

in the east not many people prefer having sex before marriage. in some religions its a sin. but these days no one cares about religion or culture. they just do it anyway.

now the part comes where you have to be careful to whom you are ready to loose your virginity to! are you sure the person youare goin to loose your virginity to is your life partner adn the one you want to marry? coz there are so many girls out there ive talked to who regret having their virginity lost to a guy they didnt end up with and would love to go back in time and keep their virginity.

then you have to be extremely careful that you dont get pregnant before marriage as many guys find this an excuse to leave you with your baby. they dnt marry and they move on leaving you with the baby.

so choose carefully. the whole thing is upto you . just choose wisely.