What Should I do about my love shyness?A black woman's opinion.?

Question

I'm 16 years old and I have a problem, when it comes to girls I'm not the best. Words won't always come when I'm around them I try to be a gentleman, then I snap I either get angry or I show a side that I don't want people to see. I also don't get black women espcially, why do our women have to be so cruel to me? What did I do? I don't understand girls, but maybe I was meant to be lonely. I only like sisters anyway what do? I'm freaking out.

Answer 1

Find out what kind of hobbies the opposite sex likes. If you are knowlegeable about movies, talk about movies. How about music? It's important to at least say hello and introduce yourself with a smile. Learn her name and speak as if you were talking with your friends about whatever subjects you usually talk about. You can't make a female be interested. You can only introduce yourself, and if she is interested, she will do her part and show interest right back. If there is no interest from her part, move on. There's a million fish in the sea.

Answer 2

well, i'll go with some of the other answerer's description of black women, they must be thinking you're not black enough
But yeah, i'm not black, there must be something else on this that i will never know really

but don't freak out, i dated this black girl who's super nice, low maintenance and was really interesting and fun to be with. No pressure!
So sometimes, the girl can play a role in the fact that you get to be with her or not... sometimes they ask too much, not that you're doing something wrong.

and also, with women generally, it's better to not try to be someone, and be completely natural with them, cause we're not all flawless actors, and we might look fake to them. If you're natural and do whatever you do without hesitation, it's more likely to work out. So don't try to be a gentlemen all the time, it's not that attractive anyways (put yourself in the women's place), but just do something nice if you feel like it, if not, then don't.

I also think that if you get angry or something like that, it's not all lost, it's well repairable... hell some women will live with husbands who'll beat them to death(i know, nooot cool at all). So don't sweat it if it happens, just calm down and resolve the thing with softer words.

So yeah, don't pressure yourself into getting a woman, learn to be fun and attractive to them, and they'll come to you alot easier. Plus that if you got pressure, you'll do tons of mistakes...

Answer 3

Young playa just be cool. Don't practice your conversations with women. Just sometimes jump in and don't seem to eagar. Some women like when you show them a little attention and then you fall back and let them chase you. Belive me just stay cool and let the ladies come to you. Black women O god there another story. Being black myself theres no advice just ahh be cool.

Answer 4

had the same exact problem. white girls like you but the black girls don't give you a chance. it's probably because they think you act "white" if the white girls like you then chances are then so do the black girls it's just that you don't act like them otherwise they would be all over you. be yourself and don't try to act fake that is the main reason they won't go for you. good luck with the sistas lord knew i needed it.

Answer 5

MOST BLACK WOMEN ARE CRAZY. THEY WANT TO WEAR THE PANTS. THEY TALK TOO MUCH JUNK. THEY ARE NOT FEMININE, THEY ARE EVIL AND WILL DRIVE YOU CRAZY.
THEY DONT HAVE ANY CLUE ON HOW TO BE SEXY. THEY HAVE NO POISE BECAUSE THEIR MOTHERS ARE THE SAME.
IF YOU LIKE BLACK THEN YOU HAVE TO FIND A BLACK GIRL THAT IS MORE WHITE THAN BLACK.
SOME BLACK GIRLS ARE OK--LIKE SOME DOGS DONT BITE. STAY AWAY FROM JUNK TALKING BLACK GIRLS. TRUST ME I KNOW...
I AM 56 YEARS OLD AND HAD MORE JAPANESE WOMEN THAN BLACK ONES AND A FEW WHITE ONES TOO. I MARRIED A BLACK GIRL BECASE SHE IS RARE--LOW MAINTENANCE...
WELL GOOD LUCK AND TAKE MY ADVICE TO HEART