My girlfriend has become very self conscious since giving birth over 2 years ago,WHY?

Question

She still has a fantastic size 10 figure but no matter how much i tell her it does not help.I even brought her some exercise equipment because she said she wanted it,then i got it in the ear because she said i do think she is fat.I cant win.Girls help me on this.
What category should this go in then?

Answer 1

First,big mistake just because she said she wanted it doesn't mean she wants it.Kinda like a new fridge yeah it sounds great but no we don't want it.Here is idea try i think you look fantastic and your still as beautiful as the day we met and I couldn't love you anymore but I've noticed you are very unhappy with your body image even though i love how amazing you look so i thought that you would enjoy this and hand her two gym memberships and say one is for me and one is for you that way we can get in shape together and become closer than we ever were.No make sure this sounds like you ,otherwise she will know that someone gave you advice.good luck!!!!

Answer 2

Your wife sounds just like myself it has been about 1yr since I gave birth and I just can't seem to bounce back!! After having my daughter I was okay, I was still my cute shape and I never felt depressed!! But after my son who will be 1 in August, I just don't feel the same, and I have 2 become very self conscious.. I don't know why either, I really can't explain, but it's not a good feeling. IAlthough I am working on getting my confidence back one thing that has helped me is exercising. I am a size 9 and I want to be my normal size 5 again. To some people that is not big but to us that is HUGE!! (compared to what we use to look like). I know exactly what she is going through and tell her it will get better. I tried the treadmill in the house and that help a little, but now I walk/jog outdoors where I can get fresh air and I feel sooo much better. The kids have alot to do with this depressed state b/c they require alot of our time, which leaves us tired and on the back burner for YEARS!! Keep the kids for a day and tell her to go get her hair and nails done, maybe a nice facial or pedicure, or meet up with some girlfriends. She just needs to get away for a bit,
3 or 4 hours out of the a busy mom's day does wonders...trust me!! Just hang in there and be patience, she will love you more for this, don't worry keep encouraging her it will get better!!
Be Blessed!!!

Answer 3

I have had two babies both with c-section and my youngest daughter always calll me fat. I'm now divorced and often feel very unattractive, hate wearing anything that emphasises my shape. Skinny people me me wanna hid in a closet and lock the doors, I went from a size 7 to size 14. Ur wife should be lucky she's still a 10.


Maybe you should show her that u still love her, take her out more-pay her more compliements. Maybe join a gym together, let her see that love her the way she is. Make her feel beautiful, appreciated-women have no idea how valuable they are, we create life!

Answer 4

Oh dear this is such a sensitive issue for woman that no man should tread any where near.

Lovingly stroke her areas of concern, let her know how stunning she is, this must be done over and over again, if theres a stunning woman on the tv then comment that shes so much nicer looking (ure g/f that is!!)

If she is going on an on about it but not eating properly or excercsing then be blunt and tell her 'you don't want to hear about it until she is prepared to help herself.

Best leave this one to her girlfriends to sort out.

Answer 5

When a woman has a child there bobies go threw alot of changes. The best thing to do there is be your self and just tell her eveeryday how beautiful she is.And be atient with her,she will soon change. But a woman body goes threw alot after child birth and in some women they are more self coniouse abut it but love her and let her know she is a beautful woman, And no matter what she is perfect. and let her know having a child did not change her in sny way. Good Luck to you, and just love her and let her no she is perfect to you

Answer 6

Women change so much with pregnancy.I am a size 10,Ive had 2 kids and Im still a size 10.she thinks she is fat,she is not.probably she has a bit of a wobbly tum.that is easy to tone up.encourage her to eat lots of fresh fruit and veg,have it with her.womens breasts can change too.mine ended up like 2 fried eggs so I had a boob job on the N.H.S.free boobs from my doctor.If that is her problem tell her she can get them done for nothing.You have to keep telling her how beautiful she is and how much you love her.

Answer 7

I have never felt the same since the birth of my last daughter 11yrs ago,I work out at least 12 hrs per week,and im size10-12! so Im not massive yet self concious I think a lot of women feel like this!

Answer 8

OMFGoooosh I would feel like that also but maybe you should just take her out to shop..that would so make me feel superb again. OMFGooosh I am such a smartie! =-)

Angie

oh and tell her that you love her no matter what! I know it would make me feel superb even if I start giving the man I love a BF"""2.. crazy huh?

Answer 9

the problem is not with u is with ur girl friend she has to gain confidence first no matter what u say it wont help if it carry on then suggest that she needs to speak to someone before it can actually become a problem then it will be hard even for her self to handle

Answer 10

well i have given birth to two precious babies and i have had two c-sections and let me tell ya it dont go back like it was before, sooo i look crappy and im to the point i dont care, my hubby still loves and supports me, and to me that is all that matters