2006-07-05 18:54:39 · 23 answers · asked by faces1978 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
move out, run away and join the circus, sleep under stairs, buy your own food, pay your own rent, buy your own computer show them this question
2006-07-05 19:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're the one who chooses your attitude. Spend as little time with your negative parent as possible. When she is in a positive mood, spend time with her then. You may slowly change her a bit. But if she has deeply ingrained habits, go away to college and move to a different city when you graduate. If you are very young, join a church group and spend a lot of time with them. Involve her in the church. Get the church members to work with your Mom. They love to do stuff like that. My Mom was negative and critical too. I could do nothing right. I never argued with her so she shut up quickly while my brother would argue with her and get involved in bitter arguments. I prefer peace and quiet. Once I went off to college, life became better. Actually, I had to work swing shift in a foundry first for a year to earn money for college, but I didn't see much of Mom then.
2006-07-05 19:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by Superstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep on loving them but surround yourself with positive people when not at home. Some times you may have to let the negative remarks go in one ear and out the other. Keep in mind that some of the things they say may be true. That part you will have to sort out especially if you are young. It may help for you to say "Why do believe that and can you explain your reasoning. Good luck
2006-07-05 19:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by # one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question. I am an adult and I am still working on maintaining a positive attitude. It is important you remember that you are your own person. YOu can make the choice to be like her, or be a positive person. Thus the way to maintain, is to be how you are and avoid discussions that are negative.
Read up on Passive-Agressive behavior.
Hang in there and be strong.
Grow up good and get out on your own.
2006-07-05 19:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother can be extremely negative. Unfortunately, as much as I love her, for my own sanity I've had to limit contact with her. Not to the point of hardly talking to her, but more like calling her when I know I can't talk too long. Then I have a valid reason for getting off the phone before she can get into her negative mood. Little things like that.
2006-07-12 06:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by Garfield 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up with a parent that hated me. It was not my fault but the parent's fault they even went to therapy for it. You need to realize it is not your fault. Hopefully the other parent is there and supportive. It is not something you can control. There are many people in your life that are not negative and like and love you. You need to dwell on the good things and the good people. With age the parent will mellow out and you can deal with the parent better. You learn to expect it. You learn to believe in yourself.
2006-07-05 23:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and remember that you only have one mother and/or father there for you. Being a parent is difficult and sometimes parents do not even realize that they are being depressing. I think you should sit down with your parent and tell him/her what is bothering you and how it affects you. Sometimes people get into a frame of mind and become stagnant. Life pressures weighing them down, etc. Maybe your parent could use a big hug too.
2006-07-05 19:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it would be to keep my trust in God because He is always positive. Ask your parent why they are so negative. Have a real heart to heart talk with them. It may be just out of concern for you, depending on what the situation is.
2006-07-05 19:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom is a total downer, everything you say she will instantly respond of why it stupid/waste of time, money/ugly on and on, you have to turn the other cheek, maintain your own personality, get involved with positve people through church, school, whatever and move out as soon as your able. Good Luck
2006-07-05 18:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you completely my mum is shocking!!! i just drummed it into my head that it was HER with the problem not ME....it's hard to do, you need to move out, if you are too young then remember that you make your own choices about who you are and how you live. You have to stop listening to the parent and listen to yourself. they can never take away your individualism no matter what they say or do
2006-07-05 19:19:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let them watch out 4 u don't be in the wrong!!! Find something else to do other than be around them!!! Keep a journal to express your feelings!!
2006-07-05 18:59:44 · answer #11 · answered by Jaquah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋