Ive been with him for 4 1/2 months, he never calls me, when I call- hes always busy playing computer games (hes 29). he never makes any effort, doesnt want me coming out with his friends- cause there rough and doesnt want me associating with them and tells me hes protecting me. Doesnt like coming out with my friends. but he tells me he loves me, and wants to one day marry me. am I being too demanding, or should he make more of an effort. He won $600 on the poker machines, and spent it all on his mates before I got there, even bought the bar tenders a bottle of jack daniels. and tipped a lingerie wattress $60. he bought me 2 drinks. I love him, but hes driving me crazy. When were together he is sweet and caring, but I feel like Im doing all the work in this relatioship. I try to talk to him about it, and he says Im being too demanding, and we have only been together 4 1/2 months.
2006-07-05 18:51:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot to mention, that When Im at his house he used to play computer games for hours, I cracked it with him, and he now plays for about an hour and spends the rest of the time with me.
He doesnt want me hanging out with him and his mates, because its a rough pub and half his mates have spent a lot of time in jail. he hasnt.
2006-07-05 19:08:29 · update #1
Even though it has only been 4 1/2 months,he should be spending more time with you.Maybe he likes you but at the same time he doesn't want to give up his single freedom and nights out with the boys.He could change but if he doesn't,I would not consider marriage to this guy if he asks you because he would do it when you are married.
2006-07-05 18:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl.. i can understand if u've been with him many many years but 4 1/2 months? come on now.. he obviously doesnt really care about how u feel, us girls loves the attention and u know that, since he's 29, he should be mature enough not to revolve his life around pc games, and put all the attention on u, i understand he needs his alone time but u said everytime u called him, he's play games? what kinda BS is that? and about spending all his winning before u got there, obviously this guy doesnt care for u enough to think about u so why are u still with him girl? im telling u, ur wasting ur precious time bkuz why give someone ur love if he doesnt feel the same? i bet he was not like this when u 2 first met huh? well, like i said, there are better guys out there so do the right thing and think for yourself before anyone else. best luck!
2006-07-05 19:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by Jade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang.. when you said he spends all the time playing video games and doesnt call.. it reminds me of my boyfriend.Although my boyfriend has never won money from a machine and spent it on tipping a lignire waitress.. he did tell me he didnt wanna go to prom with me cause he doesnt like dacing but then went ot a club with his buddies...
I understand where u coming frm
You should comfront him with how u feel, tell him that u love him, but he isnt making any effort and u feel like that he doesnt want u there wheb he gopes out with his friends and doesnt want ou there... its great hes protrecting you... but sometimes to much prtection is enough... tell him ur a big girl and can make decisoons on ur own. Maybe he just isnt as much in the realtionship as you are... but whatever it is you should talk to him.. ask questions and make sure you cover everything ur confused about!!!! and if it still doesnt work out that way, play hard to get, dont call for while dont talk to him.. pretend hes not there and give him the taste of medicine he has been giving you for the past 4 1/2 months
Hope everything works out!!
2006-07-05 18:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by A m a n d a [[D o l l f a c e]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 1/2 months for a couple should still be in their honeymoon period. They should be together wherever they go. If he thinks that you are important and become part of his life, he will by all means make an effort to call even when he is busy. That's one part of a relationship need to be done. In order to sustain a relationship, both parties must play their part. One way traffic is not going to be healthy in a long run. That's is why you feel that you are being short changed now. I suggest you try not to call him, I know its difficult but you have to be harshed to yourself. He may find that you are a nuisance to call him by not giving him personal space. If he calls you eventually, that's a good news. If he doesn't, its time for you to think of other alternatives in this relationship.
2006-07-05 19:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by kindagoodthing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down for a conversation.Keep him at an at least 10 ft awaythat way he doesn't try and become oh so nice to get your mind off the topic.Then tell him how you feel,tell him what you told us,just don't tell him that you posted this question otherwise he might be offended.Then allow him to speak,and secondly if he talks about marrying you one day tell him that if that one day is ever going to hapen he needs to wisen up or you can find a guy who knows how to treat you better.Your not being too demanding,don't let him get away with this one.Just to let you know the whole test breakup thing is a horrible idea and must be from a guy.
2006-07-05 18:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by movin12006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he doesnt want a girlfriend, he only want you around for sex and as a trophy, why would you want to be with this guy, heres something you should try, dont call him for as much as he doesnt call you, if he doesnt call you dont call him, wait until he calls you, if he never calls you then never call him, he isnt your boyfriend he is your friend with benifits, i think you should see where this is going by stopping and sitting back to see what he will do.if he doesnt call you in a while or if he calls you when he is done on the computer then he is a loser and you should move on right away. why would hegive 60 dollars to a stranger and not give you anything but 2 drinks, yeah right he loves you. he loves his budies, he doesnt want his buddies around because he has another girlfriend and he doesnt want them to know or they will tell his wife or girlfriend? you never know he might be married,why is he hiding you from his friends to protect you, from what? from thier roughness, what they are going to slamm you on the ground and powerdrive you? no i dont think so, i think you should get aawy from this loser, he isnt worth it, he is making you do everything , nope thats not a relationship.good luck.
2006-07-05 19:01:22 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but if he cant make time for his girl because he's playing computer games then hes a boy and not a man. I think that you should leave him and find someone else so end your frustration, save your tears, and find another man, a real man, GOOD LUCK.
2006-07-05 19:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by S_Dog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanna continue to be his FOOL then go right on. Otherwise, start loving yourself, drop that zero and get yourself a hero. Listen to Mary J. Blige's new single "Enough Crying". Girl, paleese leave him, he dont love you. Love says what love does. Stop being the horse and carriage and ride that jackass for a change.
2006-07-05 18:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by bhamphatback 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM!!!! he's not worth it if he's not making any effort your out of your mind sticking around w/this guy. besidesu love him but it doesnt seem that he love u. i say talk to him give him a few weeks or so and if he doesnt change then leave him.
2006-07-05 19:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by Groovy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you two have a totally different view of the relationship. You should do a profilactic breakup just to see how he reacts to it, and whether he suddenly realizes how bad he's treated you. If he doesn't come back, it was never meant to be.
2006-07-05 18:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋