All my friends are like oh no there's nothing at all wrong with that, it will just happen when the time is right! Or they're like oh I wish I was like you and that I had waited but I think if they really were me they would not wish that. And it's not that I'm just looking to get laid--although that would be nice--I guess I'm looking for a real relationship, because I've never had that either. What am I doing wrong?
2006-07-05 18:40:31 · 21 answers · asked by Sanjo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nothing wrong with sex.
nothing wrong with no sex.
it's culture that is all bent out of shape on every dam thing.
don't buy into any of it.
2006-07-05 18:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by gene_frequency 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't tell you what you're doing wrong, don't know how you've tried in the past. don't know what you look like so can't say if that's the problem (though probably not because even ugly people get sex). are you shy? are you the "just friends" type?are you lacking in self esteem? somewhere along the line, you are tripping yourself up....
i have plenty of experience in making over guys for better luck with women. but in my experience the thing about men that needs the most work is self esteem and confidence. without them, you can dress as sharp as you please, and you'll still only be a wall flower. pick up lines are a waste of time. small talk works as an opener, beyond that women usually like a man of substance and absolute point of view. a sense of humor is cool, but being too sensitive is a downfall and women avoid men with effeminate traits. contact me if you'd like... just refer to the question and i'll write you back
2006-07-06 02:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by ladrhiana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you waiting. If you value your life with all the STD's and non curable diseases going around chancing it by having sex then my hats off to you. Sexual intercourse is an agreement between two or more people depending what is your preferenece for pleasurable sensations. Sexual intercourse as you choose it to be is beautiful and fulfilling with the one that you trust and pleasured by. Research more about the art of sexual intercourse, intimacy, etc in your local library. Stick to your guns, dont compromise yourself for peer pressure. Sexual relations is an very important, yet risky decision to make. It is made for enjoyment as well as for producing life. Once you start, having sexual relations, its up to you whether to stop or start again. Get to know your body and what you want and like I said research. You should have a great sexual experience. Good luck to you.
2006-07-06 01:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by bhamphatback 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wroung with that. being In love with the person you have sex with the frist time is always better anyways. Becuase if you have one night stand, you may be happy then but later you may come to wish you had not done that.
Good luck and Be a Happy
2006-07-06 01:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by brian h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not doing anything wrong. I believe it just means God has better plans for you.
Sure, sex is great, but when you come to realize why the Lord made it for married people only, you understand why it's actually better to wait. And your future spouse will be happy you did, too.
2006-07-06 03:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by Turmoyl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The responsible thing to do is to wait to have sex until after you are married. That way if you do get pregnant, the child will have a stable home with a mom and dad.
2006-07-06 01:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by keb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course not. don't listen to others or your friends and avoid that stupid pick up voice that starts to go "well everybody else is doing it, big deal) or (i'm such an outcast)..(sounds like comcast right.? hahahaha lol.)
just go with yourself..your doing fine. b/c ppl will always be there to screw or help screw you up like ants on a dead fly and in the end they'll be gone like when a bee finish sucking on pollen. lol... listen to your heart. the real one and not the 1sec heartbeat one.
good luck*
2006-07-06 01:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by lunallna1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YeS, you're trying too hard. Wait and let things happen naturally. DO what you know is right. BE good to the other person and BE yourself
2006-07-06 01:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by K!K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, nothing wrong with you. YOu have plenty of time to get laid. Quit worrying about it & when the time is right you'll know.
2006-07-06 01:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by kibbie01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i def think that u are still a virgin by choice...although u might not think so sometimes our subconscious does this to us out of fear...is it possible that u are afriad to go into that "uncharted territory"? if u were really looking for that, n all honestly there are so many ppl out there looking for just that, SEX and honestly i think it just takes patience...don't rush into it...u will def regret it if it is done out of pure lust.....
2006-07-06 01:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by BROWN SKIN LADY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋