I guess my roommate means well (she's not mean) but she's just so dang needy. At first she seemed really cool and normal but after 2 months of her being in the house she always seems to need something from the other roommates; be it attention, help, attention or more attention. She has done everything to try and get people to worry about her. She has checked herself into the ER three times over the last month (nothing ever comes of it). It's not uncommon that she will called everyone repeatedly wanting to know when you'll be back home and she has even "broken down" and asked me to leave work (20 miles away) to come pick her up only to learn that she was walking distance from home (literally 2 blocks). It's starting to feel a little like Single White Female...only I can't kick her out of the house because she has a lease too. How should I approach her about how everyone including me wants to strangle her?
2006-07-05 18:38:22 · 5 answers · asked by Veronica 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
...can't move out. We all have leases (i.e. contracts) to live in the house for several more months.
2006-07-06 04:54:28 · update #1
suggest that she can do things on her own. if she's a hermit get her to go out and find a hobby or a job that will give her the much needed attention. Or perhaps she is having problems that she does not talk about and you could try getting her to talk to you about it.
2006-07-05 18:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by ☻Cool Beans☺ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your other roommates should get together, sit down, and talk to her. Make sure that everyone has a chance to tell it like it is and be honest. You can also encourage her to get a job and/or find an activity that she could enjoy. Let her know that you guys will always be there for her, but she shouldn't have to keep depending on you when she needs to be rescued. Give her about a month to see if she will do what she is supposed to be doing. If not, move out.
2006-07-05 19:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 23:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move out and get yourself a new apartment along with a new roomate.
2006-07-05 18:45:20 · answer #4 · answered by eriklittle2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore her
2006-07-05 18:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋