ok ive been with this girl for almost a year. she told me she loved me 1st and that she wanted to get married. so last week her parents asked her if she was gonna marry me and she said yes and this was on a tuesday. well the next day she said shed been thinking. well to make a long story short she canned me on friday. she said i wanted sumthing to serious and that she wasnt ready for that but all along she was the one saying how much she loved and cared for me and couldnt amagine being without me.so the question is what in the hell goes through girls minds cuz to be honest this is the 2nd relationship ive been in where this has happened to me? i need sum kinda of explanation cause hers i cant believe.
2006-07-05 18:17:44 · 12 answers · asked by wendall 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how many personalities does she have? tell her its been fun but you gotta go now thanks for the ride.
2006-07-05 18:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by territheterribleliar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, so the girl has been on and on about how she can't live without you and how she wants to get married, right. She's probably afraid. I know it sounds crazy, but for a sec throw away all your logic and consider this: she is in love with you and wants to marry you and such, but is so afraid that her dream of being with you forever will end in disaster, that she'd rather leave you than have it all torn to hell. Trust me, I've read it before. Some people, in their mind, would rather leave the person they love more than anything than risk being unhappy with them. It's like having a puppy that you love, but you're scared that one day he'll run away or bite you, so you give him to the pound rather than be heartbroken. Sounds crazy, I know but makes perfect sense. She afraid of the uncertain, the variable of the future. Or, maybe she's just plain damned crazy, and you should write this off as luck that she's gone, and you can find someone normal.
2006-07-06 01:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so I really don't know the situation, but girls need gratification... sad, but true. Did you give her a lot of verbal feedback? Girls are usually insecure, on some level. Maybe she just needed to know that you felt as strongly as her. If you didn't respond the way she hoped, or as strongly as she had hoped, she probably started questioning if the relationship was really working out the way she wanted it to or if she was just looking for something that wasn't reallky there. Anyway, I don't know the whole situation, but that is a possibility that I see happening a lot.
2006-07-06 01:24:07 · answer #3 · answered by individual9086 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor thing first of all , second the whole thing is a woman has to feel like she's not the only one on board with something , if you didn't give her the response that she wanted or you actted like it was a joke for the most part she thinks you don't care about her or her feelings and woman Hate that so much! It made her feel unloved and unwanted and she mostlikly found someone to make her feel the things that you weren't giving her .
2006-07-06 01:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Stormy W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls LOVE to create drama... Well, not all of us... But some can be very immature, insecure, and probably confused. You need to tell her to deal with this situation better, and help her too. It's not necessary to break up, just don't be such a superficial couple. I'm surprised you didn't flip out and dump her when she suggested marriage. That is one weird chick.
2006-07-06 01:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage amigo, is a big thing! Is she really ready? Maybe she's just fooling around with that statement? This can strain a relationship ya know! Best question to ask now is that 'Is she really worth it?' Stick to your answer regardless of a YES or NO.
Good luck!
2006-07-06 01:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by apakejadahnyaini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time girls themselves don't know what the hell there thinking. Maybe she has some inscurties to work out? I don't know.
2006-07-06 01:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girls you date could just be crazy. Or, you are too nice and you should act like you dont care. Women like bad boys you know. The kind that treat them like sh#@!
2006-07-06 01:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
women are confused about what they want. we get scared and change our minds. sometimes. she might have meet some one she was attracted to and realize she wasn't ready fro such a commitment. so many reasons. most likely she just fears it wont work out.
2006-07-06 01:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, chicks are crazy. trust me, i am one. she has some other issue that she isnt willing to admit to you and possbily herself. Shes trying to make it look like its your fault to make herself feel better. Immature people are just like that.
2006-07-06 01:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls changed their minds all the time....without noticed and without reason...but i dont think she was seirous about you in the first place....so forget about her and move on
2006-07-06 01:23:12 · answer #11 · answered by LoLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋