Got really drunk, had one of my friends pick me up and I was passing out on the couch and would wake up with him kissing me. Once I would realize what he was doing I'd push him off and tell him no, but he didn't. I woke up in the middle and freaked. and basically didnt move. Is it my fault? Would it be considered cheating? I have a boyfriend who I want to tell, but I get scared and I just can't talk about it. I keep telling myself I want to forget it ever happened, but I can't. I've never cheated on anyone before. I'm just scared and would really like some help.
2006-07-05 18:10:15 · 17 answers · asked by scottieshottiebabe750 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey......don't feel guilty with the incident you have faced. Think always which keep you cool and happy through out the day. Sometimes these type of nasty incidents come across in our lives but don't get panic with these incidents.
Pain will be released when it is shared with some one.... like U placed here with this U might have felt a bit relaxed in the same way if ur boy friend really feels about U and understands U then go ahead and explain the incident that U came across and under which circumstances U left there.
More or less we can only say U to FORGET......FORGET the incident but I know how pain it will be.........so here after judge the ppl and have a balance in your life and your habbits.......atleast this will be safe for you.
ALL THE BEST.
2006-07-05 22:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by s_rajamohan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him. But beware of a dramatic breakup. I'm not trying to sound like a fortune tellor. I'm trying to be funny! But you should stop being friends with the guy that wouldn't stop with the "freaking". AVOID HIM!!! He's not a friend if he couldn't controle himself. Don't lie to your boyfriend. Why did you call that guy anyway? Why did you get drunk in the first place? Why did you doze off and suddenly woke up "in themiddle" and "didn't move". I know your feeling guilty, but your boyfriend prabaly cares about you a lot, and you owe it to him to tell the truth. Your very un logical.And you did technically cheat on him because you knew what was going on, but didn't stop him. And when you woke up, you "basically didn't move". I'm sorry but you did cheat on your boyfriend. This is called RAPE and should be reported. GOOD LUCK!!! And I hope your boyfriend is understanding. Get tested for any viruses too.
2006-07-06 01:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by Tash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry this happened to you. This is not your fault. This is RAPE. You must go to the authorities and report him. You may not be the only person he has done this to. Also, you need to get tested for STD's. Tell your boyfriend after you go to the police so the guy will be in jail and your boyfriend will have time to calm down instead of killing him before the police arrest him. Again, I am so sorry and I wish you all the best.
2006-07-06 01:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u were either raped or seriously taken advantage of. tell your bf so he can help u out, but also u prolly ought 2 decide from now on not get that drunk unless it's with good friends only. u weren't in the wrong and i'm really sorry that happened 2 u! maybe this can just b one of those eye-openers where it serves its purpose to help u not let urself b in a position u can't defend urself anymore. if u decide that, u can really say that's the reason it happened, and everything happens 4 a reason and u figured it out. good luck, i'm really sorry it happened... :(
2006-07-06 01:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by Hot Lips 4077 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can we say RAPE??? If your bf really cares about you and you tell the whole story and leave nothing out, you'd think he would be pretty understanding. If not, then he wasn't worth the time anyway, I am very sorry you got in such a bad position. I hate that that happened to you. Thought about pressing charges against the guy? If you wanna talk more, just IM me...
2006-07-06 01:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by red_neck_biker_babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, U got to tell the Truth Ur Boyfriend Needs t know in order to have a good relationship. If he thinks ur leaving out details hun .... he dosent want u .... if he trusts u U AN HIM WILL BE PERFECT
He will forgive u for doing anthign that u might of dont
~Taryn <3 much love
2006-07-06 01:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not called cheating, it's called rape. Avoid this friend like the plague. He is not a real friend. No means no, even if you are drunk.
2006-07-06 01:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by Roach25486 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating if you didn't want to. What do you mean you woke up in the middle?
2006-07-06 01:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by bookworm1885 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this person that did that needs to be in jail for raping you. You were forced, and if your BF doesn't see it that way, then so be it. You deserved better. Think of it as a test, and if he don't pass, then oh well
2006-07-06 01:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by bjsscrap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not cheating. You put yourself in a bad situation.... but if you said No, it's NO! Your friend took advantage of your situation. I would not only tell my b/f but also the police!
2006-07-06 01:13:38 · answer #10 · answered by ???? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋