do we expect much from our christian brothers and sisters?

Question

i heard people r complaining that people in the church aren't friendly enough, or good enough etc...

seriously, do people really "intentionally" hurt our feelings in Church? If there is no bad intention then no problem right? it will be endless to wait for others to build our happiness. we should build our own - create situations and be the bigger person.

again, this is not about me. just wondering why ppl are having this problem.

bible verses please.

Answer 1

my opinion is that we focus our attention on the wrong subject at church. We shouldn't worry about our feelings or pointing out others faults while at church. We are there to worship and praise our Lord and Saviour. There is a parable (in Luke i believe) where two sinners are in the temple praying. The pharisee prayed a prayer along the lines of "father i thank you that i'm not like this tax collector" the other, the tax collector, prayed a prayer like "father be merciful to me a sinner."

The tax collector was forgiven because he focused on God as his saviour, where the parisee tried to make himself look better by shifting the attention on the tax collector. Anyway, that story can be interpreted many ways but I think it applies here. We just need to focus on God and his mercy towards us and our sins.

Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

Answer 2

well i think "intentions" are not an indication for anything apart from murder. you say that it's ok if they don't "intentionally" seek out to hurt others, but then do they "intentionally" go out of their ways to make others feel welcome? If so, then they can be forgiven. but church members really should be the hand and heart of Christ, so church should do something that other organizations (ie. AA) don't. if not, they why bother going to church? isn't having a couple of christian friends (who don't have "intentions" to hurt you)enough?
There have been times when i didn't have intention to hurt a specific person, but my neglect of "intention to make sure that those around me feel loved" has resulted in others being hurt by my not so thought out actions (whether it be they heard me speak harshly of something/someone when i was angry...ect.)


i think there is a verse in paul about christians that are supposed to do the humbling work that Christ would have done, if he was on earth.

Answer 3

A lot of times people will say things like that as a diversion from the real reasons they don't want to go to church. It's an uncomfortable topic for many people and they'd rather just cut off the conversation.

Answer 4

Church goers are people.They form clicks,look down on other church goers (not up to their standards).They gossup, and do all manner of evil.Not all church goers are Christians.Not all Christian show Christ-like love.Christians are suppose to love all other Christians as Jesus loves us.The Church can be rude like the world.The church should aceept all christians and try to get all unsaved:saved.Christians should be different then the world.Not just love those we choose.

Answer 5

I think that sometimes we forget that everyone is at a different stage in their personal development, which means that some people are better at being friendly and making people feel welcome than others.

And then, because we are all at different stages of personal growth, some people are more easily offended than others.

As I have loved you, love one another.

If a man smite you on one cheek, turn him the other.

Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father in Heaven is perfect.

As all have sinned, all are in need of repentance/forgiveness.

Answer 6

a lot of people do that. they go to churches, Christian get togethers, and whatnot, for the main purpose of criticing all the faults. it's a very common practice.

my favorite verse that kind of hits this is,

Phillipians chapter 2
"let each man work out his own salvation"

Answer 7

im a christain and im not walking very close to god right now and i feel that i cannot share my problems with the people in church because they are too judgemental........and i go to a very large church........i am a member at moody memorial church........

Answer 8

In Proverbs, the Bible says if a man would have friends, he should show himself friendly. Lot of wisdom in that.

Answer 9

SOMTIMES WE EXPECT TO MUCH BUT BEING A CHRISTAIN
FOR 10 YEARS.I HAVE ALSO WONDERED WHERE THE LOVE AND COMPSSION HAS GONE THAT JESUS TOLD US ABOUT IN HIS WORD.WE ARE LIVING IN A FAST WORLD TODAY.EVERYONE IS CAUGHT UP IN THEIR OWN WORLD
SO SAD TO SAY .BUT THE TRUTH IS THE TRUTH

Answer 10

~I've know too many of them to expect anything from them. And they seldom disappoint me in that regard. You'll have to find your own verses. I don't read fiction.