Do you ever feel really alone but then are scared to talk to anyone?

Question

I can't ever talk to people, a lot of times I'll even get scared to just say hi, but then I also feel like I want to talk to someone, but I can't. Alot of times I made up conversations with someone in my head, and sometimes I even have a pretend conversation with characters from TV shows I like, but in real life I can't talk to anyone at all. Does anyone else do that?

Answer 1

I'll create what if type of conversations in my head. But, u just need to find people that u can be around until u open up. Otherwise this will just get worse.

Answer 2

I have read all of your questions and I am amazed at how many I could have written myself at some time in my life.

In an answer I gave to one of your question last night I almost went into more details about my own problems, (in the end I did not , figuring you had enough problems of your own), and how I would create conversations in my head, trying to imagine opening up to someone. The problem was that in real life I was the only one with the script so the conversations never went the way I intended and I could never express the thoughts I wanted to.

One of the ways that I did manage to express my views was through e-mail. Just as you make up conversations in your head it is possible to type them up in an e-mail message.

The trick is then to send that message to someone you trust, possibly to the helpline you have mention in your other questions. I spent several days clicking around the send button but eventually I did manage to send the e-mail.

Please try it, and don't just write down your questions about cutting. Try to express your thoughts as to why you feel the way that you do - this is something you have not done in your questions, have you suffered a bereavement, are you being bullied or abused, fallen in love with someone who does not know you exist, etc. If you could identify why you feel the way you do people may be able to give even better advice.

Answer 3

I'm also introverted (seems to get worst recently). I find that, some times, the more I talk, the easier it is to continue. But most of the time that first step is difficult to take. Also, if there were some "official" business, like going to a meeting at work, I tend to do better. If I were to make smalltalk with some strangers or (gasp) walk up to a pretty girl and start a conversation, I wouldn't be able to do that.

How about chatting online or even email exchanges? Is that easier? Maybe that's one way to get started.

Answer 4

I can relate in that i feel really alone. I am going through some stuff but i don't trust any of my family to confide in them and i don't want to be a burden to my friends. So i sometimes will make up conversations in my head too, just so i can have a pretend friend that i can confide in. Sometimes if that's not enough i will also talk to my dog like she was a person.

Answer 5

Well, you could say what you have to say in some other way. I see you're not scared to post questions on here. And you could "talk" to people online, if you feel you can't open up to friends or relatives. Instant messaging and voice chat can be uncomfortable sometimes, but e-mail is a nice way of communication. You will have time to think what you want to say and how you want to say it.
And I have a question for you...have you seen the film "13"?

Answer 6

Yes, I always feel like that. I can sit in my room for hours and make up conversations, but I won't say hello to someone I don't know. My cause is emotional scarring in the past. When I was small, my father would smack me whenever I showed an opinion. I used to be scared to talk to anyone.

Answer 7

It sounds like you are having anxiety about your ability to talk to people, which depending on your age, is normal to be a bit insecure. Know you are as good a conversationalist as the next person and that you are fun to talk to. Do some things to increase your self esteem so you will be less anxious when talking to peers. Find an adult to talk to, preferably your mom or a trusted adult you can tell anything to, and let her guide you in ways to increase your self esteem. It sounds like you have a normal healthy desire to converse, so practice a little at a time with individuals until you are able to talk with more than one at a time.

Answer 8

If you don't have anyone to talk to then you make up someone to talk too. That's normal.
If you feel like you need to talk to someone why not talk to a teacher or someone at school. If someone or something is bothering you
You have got to tell someone. Can't just let them keep on.
Call your grandma or a Aunt and talk to them.

I don't talk to many people or tell a person much about myself. It's just the way some of us are.

Answer 9

Please know that you are not alone in doing what you do. It is not unnatural to be shy--with time and experience, you will grow out of it! Do you like to read? It's an excellent way to pass the time, and it's a great teacher! When I think of someone like you, I think of the story of the "Ugly Duckling", who eventually realized what it was meant to be! As long as you are happy with who you are, you will adjust to people in your own way, and in your own time! Give yourself that time, and like a flower in the sun, you too will blossom into something more beautiful than you already are, but don't yet realize! Love yourself, realize that others love you, and give it some time! All the best to you!

Answer 10

I have created conversations in my head but nt to the extreme that you are descrbing. And i have real people that I talk to. I am going ot encourage you to get some help. If his is scary to do in person, even with your doctor, a place to sart would be your distress line.

This says suicide lines but these people help with all sorts of stuff. I am not saying you are suicidal. They are just a place to tell you how to get help if you aren't comfortable talking to your doctor.