I don't have a whole lot of friends, but last night I managed to get almost all of them to come with their boy/girlfriends and we had a pretty good time, but it was a "sit-down" party, where everyone gathers in chairs and has clever conversations. Being slightly hungover today didn't help, but I've been depressed all day despite the usual remedies like going to the gym and punching my corkboard wall. I managed to break the skin on my knuckles but I still feel awful. I've come to a realization that I'm probably never going to have enough friends to fill my entire house with a "standing room-only" type party. That wouldn't bother me so much if I had a girlfriend, or at least some form of dependable sex/companionship. I was reading an advice thing on how to make a better internet personal ad today and one of the suggestions was to put up photos with you and your friends (especially female friends) having a great time, and that just sent me into a further down spiral. (Cont.)
2006-07-05 17:50:45 · 13 answers · asked by speciousreasoning 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Anyway, mostly this is just a catharthis, as I've found expressing your problems to people you know in real life does little to solve them, and only serves to alienate people as it reminds them of their own vulnerabilities and insecurities. But I need to get this out and I'm never going to meet any of you so why not. I haven't needed to dump on anyone like this for a long time, but I've been in a funk since I woke up and I need to do this so I can sleep and get up tomorrow for my job interview. I apologize to those of you who have read this far, especially since the headline hinted indicated a humorous post. Anyway, my question is, have any of you been in a similar situation where you're having trouble meeting people, and if so what did you do about it? Please no banal platitudes, no "just be yourself", no "cheer up and people will like you". I'm usually pretty cheerful and people do like me when they meet me. I just can't seem to leap the bridge to friendship with most of them.
2006-07-05 17:58:33 · update #1
It sounds to me like you may be depressed. I have been diagnosed with depression and take medication for it and go to a support group. When you are depressed your thinking is off and you may look at a positive thing as a negative thing or everything looks bad to you.
Go to Goggle and look under Mental Health, and then signs of depression. You will be able to evaluate yourself and it only takes a few minutes. If you do have a problem every State has a free Mental Health clinic to go too. If you don't have the signs of depression it just may be the let down after a good time that we all get. Good Luck
2006-07-05 18:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being honest your a teenager and it's 2009 sadly it's not like it use to be anymore, your going to either hook up with half a dozen more guys in your life time, find someone special young or save yourself until your married best idea is laugh it off or admit you think he's cute, you liked it and move on. If you're interested in creating more tell a couple of "gossips" who you know will go back to him that you enjoyed yourself and want to do it again sometime. Don't be ashamed you've already done it, not a lot you can do now. I'm definately not saying to go and hook up with any man, boy. I'm telling you it happens, try not to make a routine of it and be SAFE!
2016-03-27 05:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those kinds of things bother me also. Like weddings. I am going to see a bunch of people soon I have not seen them for years. A great deal of people have married and had kids. What have I done? I have slid backwards and gotten sick and had to stop work. It is pretty sad. all my exes are married. I feel like junk. Enought of my sob story. When I break it down it is not that bad and every one does not have a perfect life. I think we need to stop thinking about relationships and start connecting a series of fun and happy times. We need to do the things we like. I am so sick of trying to find someone to date. I am worn out. If it happens it happens, but it is just going to have to happen naturally. I would just advise you to spend time with friends and not just the hooked up ones get some single ones. Also just do what you like to do and stay involved in life. You will most likely meet other people that way.
2006-07-05 21:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well You should be glad to have the friends that were at your party also to meet more female friends work on being more confident nobody wants to be around someone who is depressed. plus who wants a standing room only party I think it is better to have "real" friends than a bunch of people you don't really know or care about
2006-07-05 17:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by stophatinboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so analytical. Do rather than analyzing everything g you do. if you place an ad, include a picture, but don't talk too long. Get some more hobbies. Take some classes. Do volunteer work. Keep yourself busy. It will make you more interesting.
2006-07-05 17:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by nyasasmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With friends, quality is SOOOO much more than quantity, especially if you are trying to get a girlfriend. No girl in her right mind wants to date a guy with bad friends. I would rather date a guy with a few good friends than a guy with a lot of mediocre friends.
2006-07-05 17:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by q2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes.... you do need a girl friend. In the mean time...work on becoming a lovable and interesting person. There's nothing worst than a whiner. How about a dog for now?
2006-07-05 17:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that what happens then you celerate breaking away from Queen/King and country, and wake up releasing that you now have G. W Bush as Pres. You should try and come back into our fold, but you have to do some begging.
2006-07-05 17:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mr Hex Vision 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, when it comes to friends remember it's all about QUALITY not quantity. I hope you get over your post-party depression, best of luck.
2006-07-05 17:55:38 · answer #9 · answered by UnderGrad Student 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not be depressed.Have another party today with one or two.
2006-07-05 17:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by J.SWAMY I ఇ జ స్వామి 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋