2006-07-05 17:45:21 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ditch the job. Children are the most precious part of our lives. My wife did it and I would have supported her either way. The bottom line is our kids are happy. I never met an old person that said they wished they spent more time at their job. Many wish they spent more time with thier kids.
2006-07-05 17:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by Rare Indigo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family can afford it, and it makes you happy, then it is absolutely not pathetic. Everyone has a different personality, needs, and wants in life. When my mother had to stay home, it made her depressed. She was happier when she was working. However, when my children were small, and I was still married at the time, I was happy just being a mom. I felt very fulfilled and happy, spending what I thought was precious time with my little ones. It didn't leave me feeling unfulfilled or depressed like it did my mother.
SO basically, to each her own. There is no right or wrong. It is just up to what you can afford, and what makes YOU happy. Don't feel guilty no matter which decision you make, kids seem to turn out just fine either way. Just do what makes you feel fulfilled and happy.
2006-07-05 17:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by ivehadit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford to do it, then go for it. The most wonderful gift in life is children, and being able to care for them at home is priceless. I did the same thing though and have had terrible financial problems ever since. The stress of having my kids in daycare all day, was replaced by a terrible financial burden of losing my income. I save money on daycare, but it hasn't balanced out like I had hoped. I work in the evenings part-time now, so I can be at home with them during the day and my husband is with them on the nights I work. It has definitely helped out. Definitely weigh out the sides very thoroughly before taking any action. Doing what's best for your family is never pathetic.
2006-07-05 17:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not pathetic to give up your career when you already have children.
Some people believe they're right, just because THEY think that the only time when giving up your career is wise, is when you give it up to have babies & nurture them for a few months, or maybe a year.
It's your life, your decision, & other people should respect your choice.
The point is>>> it sounds like they think you won't have a life, if you don't have a career that's one which is approved of, according to their standards (values).
Their values are not the same as everyone else's.
What YOU place value on, is what matters.
2006-07-05 18:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all.... there are many feminists out there that will tell you that you will set us females back another 50 years by doing so.
I found myself at the top of my career at age 38, but I also realized that I had given up a lot with my children in order to get to that position. I was raised with the motto.... "If you're going to do something... do it right!" Well I held up my household, my job, I played the role of soccer / football Mom.... etc. My oldest is going away to college in the fall and this year I walked away from my job.... I didn't realized how stressed out I was trying to be superwoman.
My only regret is that I didn't do it earlier... I should have stood home to raise my children myself.
2006-07-05 17:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by olivia6799 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no children I focused on a career instead of children, and even when I was married and had step-children my career came first. Now , childless, I find myself wanting something more I have nothing to pass on and will find myself alone in the years to come. My advice if you have children focus on them they are our future spend time with them teach them everything you can and when you can no longer teach them learn with them they are the future. I wish I could have the chance to mold the future as you do . Pathetic-I think not!
2006-07-05 17:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to give up your career for your children, i'd say it isn't pathetic at all...taking care of children can be a career. Just because you aren't technically getting 'wages' for it doesn't mean it isn't a job. Day carers take care of kids but are paid for it....but they both have the same responsibilities...
2006-07-05 17:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by --hannA-- 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pathetic is working for a company day in and day out while strangers raise your children. If you have the ability to do it why wouldn't you? Screw the people who tell you that you should be working. You will have a meaningful relationship with your children and they will have a meaningful relationship with their mouse! Do what you want and don't spend one second worrying about what someone else may say.
2006-07-05 17:50:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say the people who told you this are pathetic. It's your life and your choice. You have to do what's right for you. If you think staying home with your children is what suits you, fine. If you'd rather stay working, that's fine too. But neither choice would be pathetic. It all depends on what suits the people involved.
2006-07-12 06:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by Garfield 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. There is a lot of pressure on women today. It is your decision on whether you stay home with your kids or whether you go to work everyday. Whatever decision you make is valid and perfectly fine. In reality, kids who have a parent who stays home tend to turn out better anyway. Don't let people tell you that this decision is pathetic or that you are selling out. If you want to stay home with your children, then do it.
2006-07-05 17:50:34 · answer #10 · answered by q2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋