How much does being fat hinder your chances of finding a lover?

Question

I'm fat (270 pounds being 5ft. 5in.) and I always feel that I need to walk a looong way past all the prejudices and the low first impression to make a girl like me. I didn't have many girlfriends although everubody says that "love is blind" and all that stuff that sounds so useless to me. What do you think about this?

Answer 1

love does not have to be blind to appreciate you for the man that you are, regardless of your physical flaw, if you may call it that.. you just have to find the right girl for you who will appreciate you for what you have (flaws and all).. however, for health reasons, you may want to shed some pounds and am sure, it will make wonders to your self confidence too if you can manage that.. good luck!

Answer 2

look do TRY to help your self loose. BUT i think a person will love you no matter how much you weigh.ITS just that kind of weight is a health problem.IT may also stop you getting out more like you want. weight works on your self esteem too.Tell you a little secret how my neighbor found some one. she went to the local church where many were walking around a track often. MY neighbor her friend both over 290 found each other there. BUT they were headed 4 a common goal and the walking was building self esteem and self confidence too.Today three years later they are 190 and 178 pounds. so can you. YOU just may find some one too as your improving your condition. good luck hang in there star

Answer 3

I think that being fat does have a big impact in regards to charisma and how people who first see you might want to avoid you for the simple fact that that feeling in the back of their mind always seems to say "he is a social disaster, I can't be seen talking to the fat guy".. I know this because thats what I myself think (because I'm rather skinny, being 165lbs- 6'0) when I am near an obese person. You don't need to walk a long way, you just need to find the right walking shoes if you know what I mean. When girls see guys, they look for confidence, ALWAYS. The more confident you act, the better. That is the secret. Act confident and obesity is not an issue in any Romance situation.

Answer 4

Okay...heres the expert here....I'm 6'1....once weighed 360 lbs...48 waist size...now weigh 240...38 waist size.. The answer is a billion % worse chance of finding someone.......Get yourself to a gym. Preferably a medically based one which for a few extra $ will give you access to a dietician and a personal trainer. Dont do it to find a lover, do it so you dont make a trip to the ER someday. After some time you'll be looking better, and more importantly you'll be feeling better about yourself....then like me, you'll have the confidence to go out and get a lover(s).....Dude I am telling you getting the girl was only a fringe benefit....Save yourself first....the good stuff comes believe me. Its BS love is blind.....who the hell says that? You need to love yourself first, have confidence in yourself...etc.etc....and that aint going to happen until you get in better shape.....thats what the women will see. the confidence...love isnt blind...they want to see a confident guy......you'll start seeing benefits after dropping say...the first 40 lbs. You won't have to wait until your down to where you want to be. As soon as you go down a waist size...your vibe will be better and the women WILL notice...I was feeling good and had the Kevorka in just a few short months and life was all of a sudden one big party (with diet coke)....... Go now....GO!!!! why are you still sitting here reading this? GO!

Answer 5

Of course some one who is over weight can find love and have a happy relationship. My better half is a big boy. I had always had my pick, as I grew up. My man treats me like a queen and I fell in love with him because he is a perfect gentleman, father, lover ,friend and a all around beautiful human being. Keep looking there is someone for everybody.you just haven't found her yet. When you stop looking so hard love is going to blind side you. Good luck and keep your head held high.

Answer 6

Well Im only 15 but Im fat and Im on a diet because I hate it and so far I've lost 15lbs and I've still got ALOT more to lose but to andser your question.. Looks mast of the times mean basickly everything I mean looks are the 1st impreshion and if a person isnt atractive then most people wont want to even want to give them a chance. Its sad but true and I know 1st hand how bad it sucks to be over looked just because Im fat it really hurts but to be honest w/you... If you want to find love you'll probly need to lose sum weight.. I'm trying to lose also.

Answer 7

Sorry to say this is true I'm a plus size woman an i feel like i have to do 99% more to make a guy see me I'm neat, nice,kind,outgoing I'm not sloppy big at all but still not body knocking my door down that just the way the world has mad us if ya bigger ya different its sad but true. An i wont even lie to u i dont look twice at big men i don't think to big people look good together i know its wrong but sorry.But just say true to your self an don't think about what other people think or have to say. an don't do anything extra be u if they don't like it then that's there lost Have a wonderful night.

Answer 8

Whats wrong with being big, big guys tend to be more attractive to most girls then small guys becase they are usually more comfy, they make the girl feel small and they feel safe around them. My boyfriend is not tiny and I have never really dated small guys. I think most girls are more comfortable dating guys larger then themselves. I think you are correct that cheesey quotes are useless to you and that you just need to give people a chance to get to know you and if you dont get out much try going to different places to meet different people and work on your confidence, girls like confidence.

Answer 9

Sorry dude, you are soooo out of luck. It wouldn't matter if you had all the money in the world, or the nicest guy in the world. In today's shallow society, it's all about looks. Women would rather date worthless pieces of **** that are jobless and abusive, than date an educated, financially wealthy, chivalrous man. Good luck!

Answer 10

To girls, looks matter 20% and personality is 80%. For most of them anyway. Check out http://www.overnightplayer.com for more details, getting women is quite easy. I do suggest losing weight though, not for women, but for health. You gonna die pretty fast like that. Just do 20 minutes of cardio every other day.

But as for women, they won't care how you look, as long as you keep clean and look YOUR best. I aint that great and I get laid every night. You can too man.