so me and my best friend nick have known eachother since we were in diapers.... about a 4 months ago he came out of the closet(he's gay) well i have had a couple girlfriends, never really cared about them, but Nick every time i am around him i get quizzy so i guess im gay and should i come out? i dont want my friends and family to be ashamed of it but i feel this erge to kiss him once in awhile so should i ask him out and come out....just what?
2006-07-05 17:35:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like u r gay. i would talk 2 nick about it. he had the courage to come out and can help you decide if to and if so, when. i think you should admit to liking him after u tell him ur gay and work out coming out of the closet. I'm from SF, so i kno a lot of guys who have had trouble coming out. all ur family and friends have to remember is that being gay doesnt change who you are inside. if they liked the you before you admitted to being gay, they'll like the gay you. the only difference between the two is knowledge and acceptance.
2006-07-05 17:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should come out. Never be ashamed of who you are, no matter what it is. If you go on hiding your feelings or your sexuality, it will only torture you, because you'll feel like you aren't being yourself,or that you are living a lie. My best friend came out. All of his friends and family were shocked at first of course, but because they loved him -- which I'm sure your friends and family do, even though some didn't necessarily agree, they accepted him and loved him regardless. He had a such a sense of relief and freedom, no longer having to hide or worry. It will make you so happy if/when you do come out. It's like a confession, a release. I'm not saying it's gonna be a cakewalk, you are bound to get some reactions at first, maybe some that are discouraging, but you'll be prepared, and you'll be able to freely pursue being yourself and dating who you want without having to worry about 'I wonder if so and so thinks I'm gay', you can say " I'm gay' with pride, knowing you have support. Also, maybe you're bi, maybe it's just a phase. Take time to interpret your own feelings, and if you feel ready to make a move, do it! I hope this helps you, and good luck! *hug*
2006-07-06 00:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the truth. Be honest. But first, make sure you know who you are. What you think could be love my only be a crush on someone you have known all your life. But if you are gay, let me tell you, you got yourself an honest man, and that's something you don't see every day. I'm sure he would be really flattered, and willing to try his hand at a relationship with you. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.
2006-07-06 00:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by urbania05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to be gay. You are the way you are. I know a couple of my friends are lesbo, but I am not and I don't care. If your friends and family are aashamed of you then they seiously need to get a life. No affense you are kinda cute, I think any gay guy would go for you! ;) But yes, tell him how you feel. And maybe you will be a perfect pair!
2006-07-06 00:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by Christine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend will be thrilled to know you may come out, but you should take your time, let him know how you feel and let your family know, this is you life, you are in control. they don;t have to like but they must respect it. and the erge if the feeling is mutual then will have no problem planting a huge long awaited kiss, good luck!
2006-07-06 00:42:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you looking for attraction, or committment? What do you want and is the positive AND negative reprocussion worth it? Even if family and friends are ashamed, you willl find out who loves you unconditionally. Hop it helps. Woody
2006-07-06 00:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by WoodyWood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young and confused about your sexual identity. Wait and see what happens. If you really are gay you will know for sure in awhile. Keep dating girls in the meantime. Your life will be much easier if you are straight.
2006-07-06 00:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come out, there is no problem with being gay or bi. Don't ket people get you down. It;s your life and you do what you want with it. Don't listen to religious people. there is no god, so you do not have to fear going to hell. Everybody is the same, and people who treat you differently, you can just shove away, and never look back at them.
2006-07-06 22:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Maybe he told you he's gay because he thought you might be!
You're gay. Don't ask anymore.
2006-07-06 00:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should explore your feelings, you might be bi, you don't have to jump straight to the gay card!
2006-07-06 00:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋