Help in a long distance relationship?

Question

I love my girlfriend very much and would never ever cheat on her even though she lives close to 8 hours away. The thing is we met at school but since summer started we both had to go back home and haven't seen each other since the end of April. Its just been tough the last few weeks because we've run out of things to talk about or whatever and she seems to be getting bored with me. We are planning to meet up at least once before school starts back up in September but I'm not sure she will always be there for me. I know she loves me and would also never cheat on me but we seem to talk less and less everyday. Does anyone have any suggestions for keeping the sparks going for a few more weeks until we have a chance to see each other again? Because otherwise I'm afraid I might lose her.

P.S. Please don't say that long distance relationships don't work, I'm looking for suggestions to keep this one going, not to get out of it. Thank you to everyone in advance.

Answer 1

tell her about it. your situation, i mean. talk to her and ask her what you two could do. (like visit each other maybe?)

Answer 2

Well I say when a relation is dead its dead. But it may not be the real case on yours.

here's advice from the experts:
http://www.lifetimetv.com/reallife/relation/features/spark2.html


Yes, You Can Keep the Spark Alive!
Lifetime's relationships expert tells you how.
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Pump up your hearts. Psychologists like to say that adrenaline makes the heart grow fonder, because those infatuation chemicals I mentioned earlier are stimulated when we do exciting things together. That doesn't mean you have to go bungee jumping (although it wouldn't hurt), but you should try to introduce a sense of novelty into date night. Maybe you haven't been out dancing since your wedding, or perhaps you have yet to try something new and potentially embarrassing, such as bowling. The point is to pursue novel stimuli. Studies have also shown that aerobic exercise gets the sex chemicals flowing, so go rollerblading together and then share a shower afterward. Which leads to...

Get physical. It's easy to ignore sex and allow your marriage to become more of a friendship. But there's a "use it or lose it" aspect to your libido. You need to keep your relationship eroticized in order to stimulate those sex chemicals and foster intimacy. This leads to a healthier, happier outlook and ultimately begets more sex. Focus on being imaginative to keep things interesting: Share fantasies, pick up some sex toys or sexy lingerie, or have a romp somewhere out of the ordinary. Don't shy away from the fact that you're sexual beings and partners.

Dive into new interests. Couples who commit to the personal growth of their relationship and make it their top priority are the most content. If you explore new avenues and become more well-rounded together, you'll feel more in tune with each other. Some options: volunteering, taking adult education classes (such as cooking or a foreign language), investing in the stock market or joining a sports league.

Play hooky. This is one of my personal favorites. Some of my best dates with my wife have been completely unplanned, when we've both found a free afternoon away from work to stroll the streets, hold hands, have a leisurely lunch, shop, catch a flick or even get down to some canoodling before our son gets home from school. Take a personal day together and be spontaneous. Playing hooky is even more fun when you're a grown-up!

To see how one couple — a Hollywood actor married to real-life princess — keeps their love going strong while raising five kids, watch Lifetime's "I Married a Princess," on Mondays at 8 pm et/pt.


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good luck!

Answer 3

I have been having a long distance relationship with my girlfriend. I am in OK and she is in Ohio. Most of the time that we talk on the phone it is small talk such as how our day was etc. If there is a good show on, than we will watch it over the phone together. We have played yahoo word games while on the phone. We also do phone sex which is an option if the two of you were sexually active prior to the distance. What we do is one or the other will tell a sexual story about what, how, etc we will explore the other's body at a time in the future when you are together.

Answer 4

I have been in a long distance relationship before and when you are apart, you get anxious and irritable and feel like what is the point, but are miserable because you want there to be a point to it because you love the other person, but since they cannot share in your everyday life you feel withdrawn and not talkative because you are lonely for the other person but maybe need encouragement from them to make you feel like everything is going to be ok. That is how I felt in mine.( by the way it worked out.) I don't think she is bored just needs some encouragement it will work out or you two could talk about how it sucks you are apart of just remind her that you are in for the long haul and talk about something cool you two will do in the future. Maybe write her a love letter and send it through the mail. Send her some flowers or a care package to cheer her up or surprise her. I bet if you just do something small that just reminds her how great you are together, it will perk her up and kind of light the fire up again. Good Luck I hope it lasts.

Answer 5

I wont tell you that long distance relationships do not work , but I will tell you for them to work they take a lot of work. They are also very hard because you do not see each other much. But you have an advantage your only 8 hours away you can visit anytime if you really wanted to. Try being in a relationship where you are you several states away. You seem to have the trust you need now all you have to do is work on communicating. And plan to visit with her sooner its only 8 hours

Answer 6

I know how you feel. I have been in one before..They can work but it is hard and does take a lot of work..I think you should send her something nice stating that you still love her and are always thinking about her...Maybe a card and a present. But just keep reminding her that you both love each other. And tell her September is almost hear...Just keep it going. You will be fine. Good luck! need any more help just ask!

Answer 7

Hey honey, I live in MA and My man lives in FL. So I know exaclty what your going through. We have found that having phone sex once in a while spices things up. Of course you'd have to have a vivid imagination.
Anyway we make time everyother month to see each other and spend at least a few days alone and we are still going strong. So make the time to go and see her because if my man can come all the way to me from florida I'm sure you can drive or fly to go see her. k Take care and I hope everything works out.

Answer 8

My husband and I lived 22 hours away before we got married. It is hard to always think of things to talk about - especially when you don't have anything that you've done or seen together to talk about. Try keeping a journal with you and when something happens that you think would be fun to talk with your girlf about, write it down. You could also get the same book to read or go to the same movie and then talk about it later. But hey - sometimes there's just not much to say. I always just liked being on the phone with him, even if we weren't talking, because at least we were sort of together! Good luck to you guys!

Answer 9

If you really love your gf, you have to sacrifice. 8 hours is not that long, than like me having a boyfriend in a thousand miles away apart! he's in another country. I suggest you should always keep your communication "very" open, because communication is the first thing needed in a relationship before love.

Answer 10

What i do is, i think of positive things to say when ever i email him or in your case her.That's what i would want for my boyfriend to do for me. so i know that he still loves me. You have to show to her in your writing that you miss her as much as she misses you and you can't wait to see her.

You can tell her how you feel. Describe to her your feelings eash day or even a moment. Like if during the day you got angry cause your cat hid your socks..etc email her or write her and tell her. Those things makes her feel that she is not left out , yes physically she's not present with you but she's not there completely out of reach cause you both can still talk to each other maybe through email or phone. you know it's like you let her in ,in all your daily activities, it's like you at work and her at her work, and both of you phone each other to tell each other things even the most unimportant things counts.

What long distance relationship do to you is it tests you and your partner's trust for each other. And you know the longer you don't see each other, the more your trust grows and love increases. So hang in there it will turn out fine, it's up to you and her as the communication between each other is also important here, as long as you both understand each other and have faith in this relationship.

Answer 11

wow im going through the same thing but sorry im gay but i can help um i dont want to be rude but try some phone sex and complament her a lot so she knows how sweet you are and will miss you more then you can talk about how much you miss her and say stuff like i miis the smell of your hair and sometimes it will make them cry in a good way though and it will make her want to be near you so she has a stroung urge to want to talk and be with you i hope this works for you plz e me at [e-mail] bye