why is sex before marriage considered a sin to god?

Answer 1

adultery.

Answer 2

I'd suggest you think of "sin" as something that harms you. God calls things sin that miss the mark of the BEST way of living. I've found over the years, that though I sometimes thought the rule "stupid" - it wasn't just put there to be mean or old fashioned. It really does point the way to a life that is more fun to live than what I though would give me fun.

People may claim that having as much sex as possible with as many partners as possible is the BEST way of living, but with all the sexual addiciton recovery rooms being flooded right now and the haunted feeling in both men and women that there has to be something more - I wouldn't agree.

Also about the "test drive" comment - that's ludicrous. Who would want to judge your future sex life on what some fumbling 20-year-old who has no CLUE what brings you pleasure does to you in some hurried late night encounter. There is growth and maturity in your sex life in marriage (or otherwise.) And let me tell you, sex with a husband who has spent the past 8 years learning what makes you sing in bed is much better (like LIGHT YEARS better) than the first few times. Ludicrous.

Sex before marriage can also create "ghosts" of your past that once you commit in marriage can haunt your current marriage. This doesn't even begin to address the safety from STD's.

Funny thing is . . . when you dig down - really way down - on what God calls sin - you find a loving father trying to show a child the best way to live life and that to the fullest.

That's my two cents.

Answer 3

Christians believe it to be a sin because the Bible states it to be. The Bible also says stone your disobedient children to death, slavery is okay, rape okay if you pay the father some money and marry the victim after, and you can sell your daughters. The new testament also permits slavery. There are apologetics that explain these things as just the times and that things have changed. I think it could just as easily be stated that back then there was no birth control and the only people able to provide food and shelter were men so that is why sex outside marriage was forbidden. A woman alone with a child didn't have much chance. I don't see the Bible as inerrant and I think it was a product of the times it was written in. People who do will also see people who remarry after divorce as fornicators and sinners since the Bible forbade that as well. I think indiscriminate sexual behavior can lead to personal pain. People need to be responsible and it is better for a child to have two loving parents. Getting married young and before you really know yourself can also lead to pain and frustration. I think it makes you a better parent as well to have taken some time to explore life on your own and achieve some personal identity. Thats just me though.

Answer 4

It's only considered a 'sin to god' due to some books. Sex was around long before religions and marriage was.

Answer 5

1. A man should leave his mother and father, cleave unto his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. God endorses sex in marriage because it creates a soul tie. This is a soulish bond netween the man and the woman. This should only be broken by death of one of the partners.
Any sexual intercourse brings those two together. If those two people have sex with two others, and two more, you do the math. Now if you have sex one of these, you just had sex with six people in soul ties. Plus the combination can bring into play STD's. God did not intend sex or procreation to be in this way. It's the perversion that makes it wrong, which almost always is outside of marriage boundaries.

Answer 6

Because God designed marriage to be a covenant- a contract between a man and a woman, and between families.
Back in the Biblical day when a man and a woman married, a dowry(bride price) was paid to the woman's family. She was expected to be a virgin and fertile to help the husband's family grow. The husband's family wealth and advantages were joined to the wife's family wealth and advantages. The proof of the covenant was the bloody sheets of the marriage bed. It insured that the woman and her family were truthful, kept BOTH parties free from diseases and also insured that offspring had legal access to the covenant (or contract) established between the families. Back in the Biblical day, there was no such thing as mass farming, welfare or anything like that and it was a shameful thing to just casually sleep around cause it felt good. The children HAD TO BE CARED FOR.

Answer 7

He ordained sex for marriage. If you are having sex before marriage, then you are attempting to circumvent God. It was His plan for a man and woman exclusively in a marriage. He established the joy of sex soley for marriage. Anything else is not only uncivilized, but sin. (Because it violates what God intended it for.)

Answer 8

To protect the woman from unwanted pregnancies and children.

Marriage is a societal contract that both parents will stick around for the benefit of the kids. If kids are born without marriage, it's easier for one of the parents to run away from their responsibilities.

That is true for almost all societies, whether they believe in your particular god or not.

Answer 9

God created sex as the ultimate expression of love for men and women. speaking as someone who waited for Mr Right, I am glad I did.
but in today's society, sex is not taken seriously. it's just something to do for fun, because it feels good. to take something that sacred and special, and to reduce it to a form of enterainment, that's just disgusting. and not to sound preachy or condesending, but....
we do have a lot of pregnant single women these days, despite the government's penchant for handing out birth control. I'm not saying women should get married to the first guy they love. I'm saying if more girls waited, they really would be better off.
God did not come up with the rules to be mean, or to be a party pooper. they are designed to keep us safe and healthy.

Answer 10

Because sex was designed by God for who we are. God created us male and female to need each other. Our spiritual temperments...our bodies, our thinking, our abilities...they all complement each other in a broad and wonderful sense.

Just as God created us to need each other...he created marriage to fullfill those needs. Sex is a very real and visible way that those needs are fullfilled. He created it as good, but he also knew it was very dangerous. We can get burned very badly at the deepest level when we are not fullfilled in love, in security, in fidelity, etc. Marriage is a permanant structure of security and love between a man and a woman. It is designed for us to feel fullfilled! (It also creates a safe place for children to grow up into complete and happy people)

To take sex out of that context is not safe for us! It is like taking a fire out of the fireplace and putting it somewhere else in your house. Not a good idea, right? God made sex FOR marriage. It is a bond for married people to share.

For God to say "don't have sex outside of marriage" isn't God being mean or too strict...it is him being loving! He wants us to be safe and fullfilled the way he designed us to be...not for us to be hurt going from partner to partner, being bonded to them and leaving a ripped up piece of our hearts behind. He is a good God. Listen to what he says :)

Answer 11

Even though you may think that haveing sex with a women is just another notch on your belt. well have you ever noticed Thats after haveing sex with a women that she gets a big attachment to you? well in marriage when you have sex it attaches you more to your partner but if you have premarrital sex then she has attached herself to something that is going to hurt her in the long run.