she is 21 and going to have a baby and she is not married what should i do? or how should i act around the kid
2006-07-05 16:41:57 · 30 answers · asked by crazyhorse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What does it matter if she doesnt get married...Would you want her to get married into a bad relationship?? She is obviously very smart if she realizes that sometimes forcing a marrige that shouldnt happen is a very very bad mistake to make....Just be the best Aunt you can be and learn from your sisters mistakes.
2006-07-05 16:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are not seriously condsidering acting different around this child because the parents are not married. Never, ever, let a child suffer for what the parents have done.
The truth is that for whatever reason. we cannot always get married when a child is on the way. Marriage is not always the best answer to pregnancy, either. The world is much more complicated than that. What your sister and the baby need is your support.
2006-07-05 16:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not an uncommon thing for unmarried women to have a baby. If you were the one having the baby, how would you want your sister to treat it? You treat it wonderful. You be a great aunt. The child can't help that mom isn't married. It's not going to be his or her fault. Why punish the child by acting like it's a mistake? I wasn't married when I had my first two. I was with their father for over 5 years, but we never got married. I would have kicked my sisters' asses if they had treated my kids differently because of it.
2006-07-05 16:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by blondeqtpie13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The new baby will be YOUR neice. Love the new baby, get involved, help her get ready for babies arrival, babysit, buy it cute little things and let your sister know when she is being a good mom....Enjoy and help sis get excited about the new baby! Make the best out of a not so best situation.
2006-07-05 21:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by rachel_waves 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should do what makes her happy. Unfortunately, people see Babies as being all cute and cuddly... but they don't see the expensive side of trying to feed, clothe and take care of the medical and day care expenses that is involved in raising kids.
She should have thought about this before she got pregnant. There are always loving couples that would be more than happy to adopt.
2006-07-05 16:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by hswatsonaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what if she isn't married. You should love her and the baby no matter what, they are family. Many women have kids without being married. It isnt the 1900s
2006-07-05 16:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just act normal around the kid and help your sis out with your niece or nephew. just be the baby's aunt. that's your role to play.
2006-07-05 16:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by sugar n' spice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend's sister had a baby w/o being married. she still lives at home and mooches of her parents and forces her sisters to babysit. hopefully your sis is alot more responsible than this chick. you just gotta lover her and be there for her. you will end up lovin the kid i bet.
2006-07-05 16:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by dandelion86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you would around a normal baby. You seem like the freak in this situation. There is nothing you can do, but love your niece or nephew. What do you mean what can you do? Stop being a retard. That's all you can do.
2006-07-05 16:45:17 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this baby is not at fault for you sister not marrying, you shouldnt treat the baby any different than you would if she was married. there is nothing you can do to make your sister get married. if she doesnt want to the she doesnt have to. why would it bother you so much and why would yu treat the baby any different.
2006-07-05 16:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋