My husband's brother is getting married next year and they asked us if our daughter would be the flower girl. She will be 2 1/2 years old at the time of the wedding. We told them yes, what should we expect to do as parents of a flower girl? My husband is the best man.
2006-07-05 16:20:39 · 8 answers · asked by mom2abigsis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
As the parent of a flower girl, the answer is "not much!" I helped get her hair done and put her dress on, but other than that she was in the wedding party and I wasn't (husband was best man also).
Your biggest responsibility will be to make sure she's comfortable with it and determine if the bride and groom will insist she stand with the wedding party. Hope that they don't expect that LOL because by the time the wedding rolls around, the kids are kind of overwhelmed - they do their cute walk up the aisle and then it's kind of overload for them. We agreed that if our daughter couldn't stand in the wedding party, she'd come sit with us. She did come sit but then decided she wanted to stand next to Daddy up front. It was very cute and everything worked out
The worst thing you can do is put a lot of expectations on your daughter. Do the rehearsal with her, but give her an out (and insist that she have the right to come sit with you guys if she gets overwhelmed up there).
Tell her a lot how beautiful she is ;) Have a good time! WE have SUCH beautiful pics of her as flower girl *sniffle*
2006-07-05 16:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hellooo...Been there, done that! Obviously, dress her in something comfortable (short dress, not long) and if she won't wear something in or on her head, consider a large bow or flowers at the back of the dress in the "bustle" style.
Next, have your husband lead her down the aisle prior to the bridal procession. She is a little young to walk amongst all those people with another child or by herself. (Great photo op, too.) Give her a basket of petals and let her throw them around (great Kodak moment). Be prepared to take her off the altar should she get fussy or noisy. Remember, this is the bride's day and while your daughter will obviously be the cutest thing there, you don't want her to take too much attention away from the bride.
Most people don't give 2½-year-olds enough credit for having a brain. Talk to her about her "duties" beforehand, and practice with her dollies or her friends. Make sure she does a run through at the rehearsal. Have someone...preferably Mom....waiting at the altar to make her feel comfy once she's made the trip. If she's wearing new shoes, make sure to scuff the bottoms and let her wear them around the house. If she is recently potty-trained, you may want to put a Pull-Up on her just in case. Don't pressure her, but don't spring anything on her either. She will be PERFECT merely by being there, so relax and enjoy! Mazel tov!
2006-07-05 16:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by tiggyman41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I let the parents of my junior attendents off easy. I found easter dresses on clearance for the girls, and they just look fabulous in the pictures!
Usually, well, you'll be at all the pre-wedding stuff because your hubby is also standing up. Most flower girl dresses cost at least $100. If you're on a tight budget, prepare for it. Other than that, just talk to her about walking straight down the isle. My godson, who was our ring bearer, was four at our wedding, and on the video, he's doing this "zig-zag" walk down the isle. I laugh now, but I would've been freaking had I saw that on my wedding day!
My flower girl jumped in Daddy's lap when she finished walking down the isle. I had teenagers there to watch the kids during the ceremony. Make sure she knows where she's supposed to stand/sit when the ceremony is taking place.
But really, anything a 2 1/2 year old does will be considered "cute" as long as she's not crying or something during the ceremony.
2006-07-05 16:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show up, and make sure she can walk down the isle. The job is really an easy one. The worst problem you might have is she gets a case of stage fright. That's why rehearsals are held. I would also make sure she had a clean diaper on before the ceremony.
2006-07-05 16:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by Dan S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are usually required to pay for travel for you daugther,her dress,shoes,and flower girl basket but check with the bride find out if she is going to pay for the attire of her attendants including the little ones or if you are responsible for it.
2006-07-05 19:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay for her outfit, make sure she's there, help her get ready the day of. The main thing is paying for her outfit. Congrats!!!
2006-07-06 01:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by gcpom02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not force her to do anything she isn't wanting to do. If she wants to hide, let her. She just might.
2006-07-05 16:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-05 16:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋