im soo messed up in the head me and my ?bf? of 2.5 years havent spoken since friday night which is like 5 days ago anyway this is not a suprise it happens often anyway this time i think its done for good for i completely lost my temper i came over his house and seen a active rental on his cable of a strip show anyway he always claimed he didnt like stippers etc... he knows how i feel about porn and these things and he was good til now so i lost it i mean we argued 2 nights straight before this happened so we got into a bad arguement and i slapped him because he yelled for me to get out of his house and said who the f are you to telll me what to watch your not my mother so i said but u know how it makes me feel uncomfortable and upset and you watch it while im at work anyway i left and havent spoken or seen him since yep another 4th of july not together 2 yrs in a row I love him soo much i just feel that he doesnt respect my feelings sometimes out of 40+ shows he picked that one =( help
2006-07-05 16:15:50 · 10 answers · asked by bkgrl718 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i feel like im losing it its like i want to call him but a part of me is not allowing it telling me not to its just that i miss him soo much and i cant get him out of my head after almost 3 years i would think he would be a lil more considerate about my feelings and try to at least avoid hurting me to some i may be wrong but my heart is telling me that im not because after all i was hurt when i seen it its like im a really pretty girl guys always try to hit on me and here he goes a plain simple guy wandering off with his eyes etc.. anyway i cant stop thinkn about him where he is who hes with ?if he misses me ?or thinks about me soo much? etc.. so many questions and no one to answer i know hes hurt i feel really bad i lost my temper but he hurt me the way he made me feel like who the hell am i after 3 years of devoting my life to him i try soo hard to make his life easy and i dont ask for much its the simple things that i cant even get out of him he changed on me not romantic,sweet,etc.
2006-07-05 16:21:52 · update #1
wow u guys are great im amazed at how many responses i am getting for this is my first time on this site felic i dunno how to contact you lol so if u can contact me and i agree with u all yeh i know he is what he is but knowing how much it upsets me he shouldnt have to watch it out of respect its like me going and watching sexy fun and games chipp n dales talents how would that make him or you guys feel if your grl was watchn it when ur at work i mean come on its one thing to say it but when your actually going thru it it isnt as easy to understand believe me i dont wanna fight i love him and miss him but im hurt and he said that im dead wrong and hes not gonna stoop to my level blah blah blah along with some hurtful things after that so i dont wanna write too much im just very thankful for all your comments =)
2006-07-05 16:33:48 · update #2
why is it so hard to get over him after he lied to you and disrespected you?? he should be so very yesterdays news!!!
2006-07-05 16:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by beaniefufer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the first thing you need to do is simply not see him anymore. Don't answer his calls, don't open the door for him, don't go to places you're likely to see him.
The second thing you need to do is understand that as days go by this will feel less intense. Resist the urge to call him because you "can't take it" anymore. Lean on your friends. Make new friends. Go visit a friend out of town. Find a hobby or really pay attention to your current one. Famous saying "When I got busy I got better" is very true. Go for a run or a walk everyday. If you start thinking about him, vacuum your floor. If you're in line at a fast food place and he enters your head, turn to the person next to you and say, "nice day, isn't it?" and have a light conversation.
Getting over it is the hard part, but it doesn't take forever unless you give up on the getting over it part.
2006-07-05 23:21:58 · answer #2 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to chill for a while. Just let it simmer a little while longer, then if he's willing, you both should sit down and try to work things out. You two can come to an agreement. Tell him your terms, and he can tell you his. Tell him how this stuff makes you feel (without freaking out ;)) and hopefully you can work something out. I hope all goes well. If he really can't get over it, then I am thinking he's not worth the effort of getting back anyway. You both were in the wrong and if he can't realize that, he needs to hit the road. Best wishes!
2006-07-05 23:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by Lorenia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, hmm. i would probably, first, debate whether you really want to date this guy, because if not, this is a really easy way to dump him and you are both already fighting. if you are a fighter and really like this guy, then send him flowers and maybe a tape or video saying why you love him and don't want this to spoil your relationship. a letter would be fine too. also, give him time. along with the video, he should realize that hes being stupid not to call you and make-up. if he doesn't, then hes probably not worth the time anyway.
2006-07-05 23:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is who he is...whether it be right or wrong. Either live with it or move on. Yes he should probably respect your wishes, but it's legal and his right to watch it if he chooses to. You're not going to change him, so quit trying.
And quit slapping him...why is it ok for a woman to slap or hit a man, but if a guy does it he's a lowlife and probably gets arrested? I don't believe in hitting women, never have, but you certainly have no right to hit him either.
So you have two choices.
Learn to live with the things he does that irritate you.
Move on.
Life is about compromise and knowing when to choose your fights. Is this one you choose to fight?
2006-07-05 23:25:41 · answer #5 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like music turned up really loud, lotsa friends and dancing all night long. good way to forget for awhile and maybe sit down and talk about all this with your girls, they might have some good ideas as they know both of you. (p.s. movies work too)
2006-07-05 23:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by spazzyzombie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im going thru the same thing. my bf tonite was looking at rap videos and i saw the lust in his eyes. and it bothered me. i was right there looking at him. so i know what you mean. i really would like to talk to you about this. a lot of people think its ok but its not. lust is one of the7 deadly sins in the bible.
2006-07-05 23:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take up quilting. Or needlepoint. Seriously... great pastimes.
Why does it bother you that your loved one likes to watch naked ladies? It's too silly to get upset about.
2006-07-05 23:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by Lynne D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he likes porn, he likes porn! if it's such a big deal you shouldn't hang out with him. he shouldn't have to hide who he is and you shouldn't compromise how you feel. you should never make a guy feel like he has to hide his true self, then you'll always have them lying to you . . .
2006-07-05 23:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by Each1Teach1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you talked him to death
2006-07-05 23:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋