im soo messed up in the head me and my ?bf? of 2.5 years havent spoken since friday night which is like 5 days ago anyway this is not a suprise it happens often anyway this time i think its done for good for i completely lost my temper i came over his house and seen a active rental on his cable of a strip show anyway he always claimed he didnt like stippers etc... he knows how i feel about porn and these things and he was good til now so i lost it i mean we argued 2 nights straight before this happened so we got into a bad arguement and i slapped him because he yelled for me to get out of his house and said who the f are you to telll me what to watch your not my mother so i said but u know how it makes me feel uncomfortable and upset and you watch it while im at work anyway i left and havent spoken or seen him since yep another 4th of july not together 2 yrs in a row I love him soo much i just feel that he doesnt respect my feelings sometimes out of 40+ shows he picked that one =( help
2006-07-05 16:13:33 · 9 answers · asked by bkgrl718 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
looks like he'll be kicking his fieldgoals threw some other girls legs soon...
2006-07-05 16:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to work things out with him. It's hard to find a guy that doesn't cheat, but a guy who doesn't watch porn ever? Near impossible. Porn is not cheating. There is nothing wrong with a guy watching it. He does it when you're not around to please him because he has sexual urges. It's okay that you don't like it, but it's not something to slap him or break up with him over. If he didn't like you hanging out with your guy friends because it "bothered him" well, he'd be an a sshole. And that's kind of how you're being. I am sorry that you have that problem and you feel uncomfortable about it. But you really need to get over it. You have a good guy to have gone so long without it, I think it's your turn to make a sacrifice for him and learn to tolerate it, love is all about compromise.
2006-07-05 23:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by Skitz628 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you take somebodys choices away they rebel everytime. nobody likes to feel controlled and who gave you the right to do it? Nobody is responsible for your choices or feelings to be upset or a happy or responsible to make you so. i suggest you re-evaluate who your being because your doing a very good job at sabotaging your realtionship ,and maybe your bored and love to create some drama for attention! No man will put up with a womans crap no matter how beautifull she is..Period. So drop it or 100% for sure he will drop you. Learn to deal with reality before it deals with you
otherwise your going to end up seriously upset that the world doesnt run your way, and by the way it never will so get used to the way it is. Love is somebody who calls you when they don't have to, not the love in your Walt Disney fairy story!
2006-07-05 23:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he disregarded your feelings and openly disrespected you. that ******* sucks. anyway, you can't expect him to be out of your head in such a short time - 2 and a half years Jesus, you were practically married. jus get on with your life, and be normal, smiley, happy you. you can be crazy, obsessed, torn and messed up too if you must, but just as long as he doesn't see it / know about it. if he's an idiot *** he's definitely gone. he'll be back if he still wants you though. Take him back if you want to, but give him an ultimatum so he knows exactly what the deal is regarding your feelings and your wishes, and which ''violations'' will get him kicked out - for good. you don't need to be with an ***.
2006-07-05 23:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by KafueGirl04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he's right....you're not his mother....and if you would have slapped me....I would have told you to depart the premises immediately, too. If you have all this drama going on, you may need to seek help from Dr. Phil or someone....never put your hands on another human being....
2006-07-05 23:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say bye bye. If he comes back after you smacked him in his own house...how will you respect him?
Doesn't sound like you respected him too much anyway...why care what he watches if he is WITH you? Men are visual...they like to watch...that's all.
2006-07-05 23:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by DaddyBoy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hit him? Yep, it's over. You need to go outside, hang with friends, go do fun things, buy a good book.....
2006-07-05 23:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
women need to keep your f*cking hands. if he hit you you would probably call the cops. sorry if i sound mean but i had girls do the to me and its not appreciated at all. but if you love him you'll should respect that. dont try to control him. its better lookin on tv then have a girl in his bedroom. cut him some slack
2006-07-05 23:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by jay d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't even read your story because it was long and boring. You are boring.
2006-07-05 23:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by shakia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋