I know that my fience has been looking and trying to talk to other women on line. What do I do because I think that is cheating. That means he's wanting someone else? Help me becasue I love him so much.
2006-07-05 15:45:45 · 15 answers · asked by frogyshcic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If he is looking for web sex then that's definately cheating. If he's wanting to make new friends for only talking to online about everyday things then I think that's ok. But I still would say he shouldn't search for them, instead let them find him if they want. I would really sit and talk to him about it because nothing should bother you that much right before you are to get married.
2006-07-05 15:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mischelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that most people think that it's only cheating if you actually have sex with someone. I've known people that believe that even kissing isn't really considered cheating. But when you are sneaking around behind your partner's back and even talking to someone else intimately, that's cheating! You're sharing the kind of feelings that should only be shared with the person you're committed to.
Your fiance knows that what he is doing is wrong and that you wouldn't approve. Otherwise, why would he feel the need to keep it from you?
2006-07-05 15:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by Naples_6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cheating, and it WILL lead to "real" cheating. I'm not saying he's a horrible monster, but he needs to realize he can't have his cake and eat it too and make a tough life choice. If he says it's ok, then tell him that you are going to do the same and see how he takes it. If you two cannot agree on this, re-think the relationship, no matter how much you love him, a marriage with a double standard or one person hurting and disrespecting the other because you are NOT ok with this will not work and you 2 will divorce sooner or later, probably sooner...
2006-07-05 15:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can go both ways. Don't jump to conclusions. Some people "fool around" on the internet and it has no impact on their own "real life" romantic life. Others are actually looking to hook up. It is hard to tell which is really going on. I say, pretty much ignore the internet thing and look for signs elsewhere. If there is anything really "going on" that will affect the real world on the interenet, you will be seeing things happening that will let you know. Go by what you actually know is happening in the "real world" and ignore the happenings in "fantasy world". Sometimes escapes and imaginings can be psychologically healthy. In fact, sometimes you can learn things from "internet relationships" that will actually be very helpful in your "real time" relationship. Relax. Keep your eyes open, and see how your real relationship is actually going before judging it on the basis of what is happening on the net.
2006-07-05 15:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe whole heartedly that relationships online should be considered cheating. If there is any intimacy in the conversations, he is cheating, even if they never met. It will eventually lead to other things that are without a doubt cheating. How do I know this? I was once that other woman. This married man would think of me all day and couldn't wait to talk to me again. We hadn't even met yet. But we did meet. It is cheating.
2006-07-05 15:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by twincerelymel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cyber-sex is definitely cheating. It means he is lusting after someone else, and that he is not 100% ready to commit to only you. Just think of what he is doing: pleasuring himself/finding pleasure in imagining sex with that person. sometimes, people get sucked into this kind of thing, and end up meeting the person. Do you really want to have him doing this kind of stuff when you guys are actually married? Just think about it. I think you should confront him and tell him how you really feel about it-that may be all that it takes to end his sexcapades. Surely, he doesn't want to end up losing you or jeporadizing your relationship over 5 fingers, his palm, and some girl who could possibly even be a man!!
2006-07-05 15:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he IS having sex online, I would consider it cheating. If he's just looking around, it isn't cheating YET. I have to say though, if I were you... I'd head for the hills and find a man who will be loyal to you. I know it will take courage and you'll be heartbroken, but in the long run, when you find someone who'll be true to you, it'll be worth all the pain.
Keep your eyes open and your chin up.
2006-07-05 15:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by seattlecutiepie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just playing around, but if it makes you uncomfortable, it's wrong.
I'd sit down and talk to him. This would be an ultimatum thing; I don't necessarily consider it cheating, but it is a gateway to cheating.
Unless you trust him 100%, don't marry him! You can love someone, even be in love with someone, but chose not to marry them!
2006-07-05 16:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you suspect he is cheating and you are engaged to this guy maybe ya'll should sit down and tell each other what you expect from your relationship before you get married.
2006-07-05 15:48:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its going lead to cheating and would make me feel insecure. Minus the fact it's kinda....retarded.
2006-07-05 15:49:05 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋