Is it bad if your bf....?

Question

puts single in one of his myspace and then puts private in the other even though he knows you hate myspace and don't have an account but want to check his out? I want out of this relationship, it is affecting me. I just don't want to go through the pain after or having him make me feel worse. Should I text him "I wan't to break up for good this time" right now!He is in another country for the whole summer and if I do how do I deal without him after if I miss him but he was a jerk these last couple days?

Answer 1

Hi honey, here to help. First of all I am guessing you are young, probably anywhere from 16-18? If I am wrong you can holler at me!
I personally think MySpace is not something you really should be on if you are in a relationship. Now I know others out there are going to argue with that, saying its a place for friends, blah blah blah. I think it really depends on how mature you are about it. I think of it almost as a forbidden place, sort of like going to nightclubs and bars while in a relationship....You are setting yourself up for many temptations.
I am sure at your age it is exciting to meet new people. You can meet people in your own state that are your age. But the thing is, pictures are posted on that site, and it is very easy for guys and girls alike to be attracted to a photo (but not actually knowing the person). This eventually involves meeting up with that person etc. It is a very impressionable thing for young people, and people of all ages...
Personally, your "boyfriend" is acting very immature. But, you know something? This is very typical of a guy his age. He is meeting girls on myspace (whether its in person or just starting a friendship online). He is probably thinking he will look better if he did not have the whole relationship thing going on. If he really loved and respected you, he probably would have cancelled his myspace account a long time ago or he would have had his status as "in a relationship".
I can see being on MySpace, and reconnecting with old friends. I can also see it if you are single, and you know the precautions of dating online. There are alot of sick people out there that you have to be careful of. People are not always who they seem to be. The internet is great for pretending to be who you want to be. There are questionable people of all ages and you have to remember that, young or old, it doesn't really matter.
Now that I have told you your boyfriend is immature, do you think its really mature to break up in a text? Break ups are not easy, but I think you owe the person a little more respect than that, no matter how much of a jerk they may be at this point. And honey, no one makes you feel worse except for yourself. Yeah you are going to cry, and miss him, but you know something? You have to do what is best and what is right for you. This does not sound like a good relationship at all.
If he is out of the country, what's to say that he doesn't have other girlfriends where he is? I doubt that he has not talked to any girls at all. You have to remember that you are both young, and really you should enjoy it. There are going to be many boyfriends in your life! I know that sounds really stupid, and when I was your age my parents would tell me the same thing, I never believed them. Everytime I broke up with someone I thought that my life was over. The truth is, its not, and it is actually just beginning.
You will always miss someone when you break up. But I guarantee that once you do it, you will probably feel like a huge weight has lifted off of your shoulders. Its the hardest thing to do and sometimes I think its almost as bad as a death because the person is still alive, moving on, etc. You have to follow your heart on this.
I personally think that you should try and enjoy your summer. Hang out with friends, travel and have fun. Don't moon over this guy for the whole summer because I sincerly doubt he is doing that over you. Heck you should even talk to new guys. Not saying date them but just make friends and have fun.
Good luck and I hope this works out for you.

Answer 2

Myspace is ALWAYS a problem in relationships, so what your saying is nothing new at all. If you want out of the relationship then do it. I am sure you deserve better anyways. He's obviously not ready to have ANY girlfriend if he needs to hide something like a little website page from her that's ridiculous and ignorant. I can't blame you for being uncomfortable, I would be too. Also, don't do the old text message thing, call him, tell him flat out. If he acts like a jerk, make sure you dont call him back, dont text him, and ignore him completely. Otherwise, he is going to continuously mess with your heart. It happened to me and I got completely messed up about. No one needs to deal with a complete jerk in their relationship, that's not a relationship, that's ignorance.

Answer 3

If he is a jerk lately and you feel like you need to get out of the relationship and move on. If you start to miss him just remember how he made you feel. Trust me the feeling of missing him will go away

Answer 4

If you can try to call him.. its best if he hears it from you mouth.. otherwise he may not take it seriously. And if you text him you may be left wondering if he even read it..