I love my brother. But when he drinks he gets so violent. He'll hit and degrade his girlfriends. Should i cut him out of my life? He's always been this way.
2006-07-05 15:34:03 · 17 answers · asked by ~Shy~Girl~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you indeed love your brother, and have not tried to help him, then do. If he is ashamed of this behavior and is one of many who would never do such a thing sober, maybe he should stop drinking. If the issue is deeper, he might benefit from a support group or good therapist. A local crisis line might be a place to start. If he refuses help you have to decide the emotional consequences to yourself of continuing to watch this destructiveness. If you are in danger, please do what you need to do to protect yourself, and encourage his current girlfriend to do the same (battered womens shelters exist in most areas).
2006-07-05 15:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by Robin R 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cutting him out of your life isn't going to solve the problem or save his next girlfriend from being beaten up. It sounds like he needs some help with anger management and/or alcohol (if he truly only is violent when drinking).
I'd try to help him first. Try to help him find treatment options, offer to go with him to a therapy session or AA meeting, or possibly just sit and listen to what he has to say.
If you do nothing, he will end up in prison. You don't want that, and I doubt he does either.
Best of luck.
2006-07-05 15:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by seattlecutiepie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a brother just like that, the whole family tried to talk to him but he wouldn't change. I remember night when she would call me up crying and I would have to come over to their place and talk to him. It's funny how they cant remember anything they did the night before. But I got smart, I video taped him one night and I show him the tape. I think he was so embarrassed that he stop drinking. I don't know if this will help you but it work on my brother.
2006-07-05 17:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by missy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set him up with a professional lady wrestler. She'll bring him to Jesus.
No seriously, once he's wrecked his current relationship, get him a headshrink. He sounds like he needs to go to AA. There are harmless drunks and then there are violent drunks, and violent drunks tend to go to jail more often and for longer. Good Luck.
2006-07-05 15:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by Baddest_Bandulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police! Get him help now other wise you will blame yourself when he is sitting in jail and his GF is lying in box 6 feet underground! Don't be a coward and turn your back!
Doing the right thing is not always the same as doing the easy thing!
2006-07-05 15:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by fjrnj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, cut him off. You don't want this kind of a person in your life...it could turn out to be dangerous for you and it is such a negative energy...he will only try to bring innocent others, like you, down with him. If anything, you should report his violence to the authorities! Good luck.
2006-07-05 15:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by neverneverland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn him in. He will not stop doing this. He will continue to get more violent as time goes by. He may end up killing one of them or even you when he is like this.
2006-07-05 15:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by pappa_15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to have a talk with someone about this. Someone how can get through to him or maybe you could talk to him about it. But something needs to happen before someone gets hurt badly or even killed. I know that he is your brother and you love him but you have to think about the women he is doing this to. It is distoying their lives. I've know to many women how have been beat to death daily to let it happen to someone else. If he has a close friend he trusts maybe you could talk to them and have them talk to him but something needs to be done fast!
2006-07-05 16:05:29 · answer #8 · answered by frogyshcic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have a real heart to heart with him.If things get bad as hard as it may seem call the police he has no right to treat women like that.It's your brother and it's hard but your doing the right thing If his violent behavior doesn't stop.After your heart to heart ask him if he wants help and maybe help sighn him to a rehab center but remeber he can't do it unless he wants too.
2006-07-05 15:43:20 · answer #9 · answered by Nina C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him to stop
it wont b easy but you need to. he'll be happier when he has a girl who loves him not fears him
and if u wont. how long do the girlfriends have to suffer b4 u feel good about stopping him?
your his sister and this is one of those times you need to b strong and help him stop. especially b4 he gets arrested.
2006-07-05 15:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by Jon R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋