Cure for a broken heart?

Question

How do I get over this horrible awful pain of my heart just breaking? I don't hate him for it, it's not like that, but oh my gosh, I can't focus, I can't see for crying, and dear Lord it hurts so bad. Maybe its all in my head but it feels like physical pain! I want to curl up in a little ball and get away from it. I can't think, can't eat, please, somebody help me! And don't tell me time is the cure, because I'm hear in the now and it hurts now! Please, can anybody help?

I trusted him, I didn't want to but then I fell in love with hime and now it hurts so bad. please help

Answer 1

time and patience...*sigh* the broken heart...I know that it seems like an uphill battle and quite often it is. Just know that with time it gets easier to smile and move on. Use this time to reflect on the lesson's learned in your experience and apply them to your next relationship. Know that we are to meet a few of the wrong people so when we meet the right one we will know how to be greatful. You will come out stronger for having gone through this...Like I said...it will be painfull, but its only temporary...just let your heart let go. Hang in there ok...

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I always tell people not to feel guilty about the feelings they still have for the guilty party. We are all human and guilty of harboring feelings for those who don't necesarrily deserve it. The most important thing is to always be honest with yourself and stay true to your "feelings"; however, at the same time you have to also make the right decision in the process. I gaurantee this will keep you from going insane. If you have a moment of weakness and call or have sex with them again just tell yourself that it was what your physical self needed but mentally you know you deserve better. Chalk it up to a booty call and keep moving on. Don't start letting your mind wonder into romantic thoughts of you and this person. We all tend to start lying to ourselves and brainwashing ourselves to the point where we believe this person is going to change. NOT!

Another thing that will help you keep your sanity is to start dating again. This will help get your mind off the other person. I am not saying jump into another relationhsip. I would not put myself in the postition of grabbing a rebound person, but, there is nothing wrong with making new friends. In no time at all (when I say no time I mean 6 mo's to a year) you will be completely over this person and maybe even ready to delve into a serious relationship again.

Everyone always says time will heal but they never take the time to explain just "how" the healing process takes place. While all this "time" is going by. This is exactly what you do. You put you first, never deprive yourself, make new friends, date, don't get into any so called serious relationships for at least 6 months and don't lie to yourself or feel guilty about anything that happens in between. I hope this helps. Good luck.


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Answer 4

Maybe eat a ton of ice cream, watch your favourite movie,read a good book, comic or reality magazine.Just keep your self busy so you don't have time to think about all the hurt and stuff. My brother is going through a real hard time too as his fiance ditched him forever, after a year and a half. I'm trying to make him feel better too. He so love sick right now. All he wants to do is sleep and mope around. He tells me that he'll never date again. But I tell him right now you have way too many emotions to deal with.You need to deal with your heart and it need to be around happy motivated fun people.I told him don't stop living your life! Do you think that she's sitting there crying her pants off,.... NO!!!!

I will take him out, and friends will be there for him. He is loved no matter what he feels at the time. Everyone who cares about him will make sure he knows it!So my advice to you is be with happy postive caring people right now. Get all the hurt out by dealing with it now. Then take care of you, do somthing fun for yourself. Don't let that person win by knowing they broke your heart, instead be a better person to yourself and move on with your life. The sooner the better, and each day become more easier.Unfountunatly everyones been there and the advice you recieve from people will depend on what you want to make of it. Don't let this control you it's an emotion that you can take control of so do it now!!!!! Good Times ahead! You can do it!!

Answer 5

I'm right there with you....maybe I'm not that bad right at this minute but earlier I was....unfortunately I can't give you a for sure answer.....I sincerely wish I could though....you just have to live thru the "episodes" as I call them....I try to go for a walk in the park to get my frustration out....I felt sooo bad earlier though, that I couldn't even do that....instead I ate dinner and came onto this site...where I've been ever since....Pathetic huh???
I know, but hey, whatever helps.....shout in your pillow, go in your closet and scream...do whatever to let some of it out!! It does feel like physical pain, your heart almost feels like it will burst....it's the worst kind of pain possible I think.....I hear ya
Chin up!!!! I'll be thinking of you.

Answer 6

well, u will just have to find what really hurt u in that break up and trust me, payback is a bith! maybe u try hurting him back, u'll feel better or make improvisations by having another guy who could do better. dont let the heart breaking stop u. u can have a relationship without ur heart in it and when u see what u want, u can release ur guard

Answer 7

Well get out there and find another guy. Im available. Just keep yourself busy and dont think about the past. Whats done is done trust me Ive felt the same thing your going through.

Answer 8

Sorry for your Hurt. Now pick up the Phone call a good old Friend and go out for a Meal. You need to stay busy; that always worked and still does for me. GOOD LUCK>

Answer 9

Sounds like you need to go out call your sister
or a friend try not to think about it
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Answer 10

Well, if he moved on then you should move on too because it's over. Just face it okay dear? You can't obsess so much over it.