My grandfather just passed away a few days ago, and I am trying to cope with it. Despite trying so, I can't help feeling depressing and allowing it to affect my daily chores.
I am really forgetful and I have been trying to force myself to think about him daily, fearing that I will forget about him one day. Remembering is painful and yet forgetting him is too.
How did you cope with it?
2006-07-05 15:05:06 · 12 answers · asked by Stellvia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It will hurt for a while, then the pain will gradually decrease. If you worry about forgetting, write down everything you remember about him. You can make a scrapbook or a notebook, whatever you want. You can add to it as you think of more things. It might help you say goodbye.
2006-07-05 15:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep something of theirs or a picture of them around as a constant reminder so you don't forget them. True it is painful remembering, but it's a worse feeling to have forgotten them completely, and given enough time the pain will subside and be replaced with the fond memories you once shared together.If it affects your daily chores....who cares. Whatever you get done today is great, if it doesn't get done today, there's always tomorrow. Eventually you'll be back into your old routine...Until then LOL and best to you!!!
2006-07-05 15:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off..I am so sorry to hear of your loss! Words fail at times like this.
I havent read the previous answers but I suggest a diary or blog to write down your memories so as time passes you wont lose any.
My only sibling, my brother, died 10 months ago. When he did I began a blog and diary to jot down anything and everything I could remember. I even jotted down my memory of his actual passing. I was with him as he drew his last breath and I was affraid I would forget the details so wrote it all down. I have even used it as a place to write notes to him.
If the suggestions made here dont seem to get you back in the swing of things...consider joining a Hospice Bereavement support group. Its free and open to the public even if your grandfather wasnt a patient/client at a hospice house. I am taking advantage of it in my local area. I am having a hard time getting past my brothers death.
I wish you the best.
Please let yourself grieve! Dont let anyone pressure you to "just get over it." Grief can take a long time and that is just fine. But there is a process to grief. Give yourself the time YOU need!
2006-07-05 16:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by AccountableLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all understand and accept that you're in the early stages of mourning, and also realize that he's in a much better place now, and it's okay to have a good long cry now and then, and don't try to cope with it, just go about your daily business, and at times you will be struck with overwhelming feelings of loss, but as time goes on you'll regain your composure and go on with your life.
2006-07-05 15:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my mother 4 years ago and the pain was unbearable, now it is bearable. You will never forget your grandfather, trust me. The people who pass before us are only a thought or memory away. It is extremely painful for you right now because his passing is very recent, but over time you will begin to feel yourself again and when you think of him it will be with fondness and appreciation that you had such a wonderful man in your life.
You are in my prayers
2006-07-05 15:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by hipergirl22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age old answer is time not what you wanted to hear I know. My mom passed away 3 years ago and it still hurts but time also makes it easier to remember too. I hope that helps and I am sorry for your loss.
2006-07-05 15:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by boeckers2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe i can relate... my grandparents are the closest thing to me. i love them more than my parents seeing as they are ALWAYS working and ignoring my brother and i... what im getting at is that i love them so much and thinking about them gone makes me cry. i can only imagine what your going through but my great aunt passed away in january. i promise you wont forget your grandpa... the pain has to let itself go away but purposefully dwelling on it wont help either. im sorry i dont have better advice than that and im sorry for your loss. peace be with you. :)
2006-07-05 15:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by j_dziki10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your lose.it's always tough to get over losing someone so close to you but over time it will get easier. For now try to focus on the things about him that made you happy always try to think of the good times and eventually the pain will become less and less
2006-07-05 15:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by deepbushhunter69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to having to accept that emptiness, and sad, but I keep the good times we had with me all the time. I move forward and wonder what would be thought about sharing in my accomplishments and smile cause I know it would be celebrated.
2006-07-05 15:14:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the funeral home, and find other people to help in their grief.
Been there, done that.
The best way to heal your pain is to help other people heal theirs.
2006-07-05 15:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋