I see women on this site say they want to find a good man. I also see women on this site say all women want a bad boy.I have many female friends and a also some of my ex"s end up with A** Holes. Even my friends and ex"s say they want a good man. Every single woman I ever had came back later and asked to have me back. Please explain this type of female mentality so I can understand.
2006-07-05 14:19:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
women dont know what they want. when they get with you... they wanna make sure they aren't settling and then after they leave you or whatever... they start thinking: no body can do it like he do! So women just have to realize that and when they do, you have them in your palm.
2006-07-05 14:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by Nic Jones 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you need to define what a "good" man is.
I think a "good" mate is someone with a basically amiable personality who has similar values and background but has an opposite way of approaching life.
That said, let's examine your female friends who had erseholes for boyfriends. Your female friends are basically decent people and they look for guys who are "bad" because they look for something opposite to their personality and lifestyle. Altruism: Opposites attract (not that simple, though)
Your decent friends are nice, so we can assume that you are one of the nice guys (Birds of a feather flock together-You can tell the character of a man by the company he keeps, right?)
Your ex's break up with you because they don't find the qualities they are looking for, the unbalanced, unpredictable bad boy traits. You are a good man, but the only girls who will appreciate you are the "bad" girls. So far, your ex's have been good girls looking for a bad boy, so there's no surprise there if they want to break up with you.
After your ex's go out and see other bad boy types, they realize that bad boys aren't what they're cracked up to be. Then they think of how nice you were to them, and they want to come back to you, someone who's stable, understanding, and shares similar values.
Ugh...I think I'm confusing you more than it actually sounds.
2006-07-05 21:24:03 · answer #2 · answered by Siddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women usually want a "good man" with financial means and maturity...respect for themselves as well as their women. You may have these attributes that appeal to and are a "safe bet" that compliments their emotional baggage...don't become the boomerang...The "bad boy?"...a quick dix...I mean fix...but being a "devil's advocate", it seems no matter at what age or time in their lives, men want the trophy... a "looker" that compliments their ego/image..what's up with that???
2006-07-05 21:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by sctrgrl2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are picking immature women, probably just because they are "hot". When you get over the phase of having to have the most attractive girlfriend possible, you'll find someone decent.
2006-07-06 12:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by yogazen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone wants what they can't have. Most women have a bad boy phase, but a lot of us don't. We're just as confused as you are, because a lot of us see guys run off with girls who just want to screw with their head - and we wonder why you'd pick them over us.
2006-07-06 21:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls have a hard enough time understandin themselves. u have no idea how confused u guys can make us!!
ok let me try to say what im thinkin-
girls want a guy that is a bit of a rebel, but will be compassionate to them.
as for the come back girls-they miss you! they are remembering the good times and wanto you to love them again.
2006-07-05 21:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by abigail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls want...
1 someone they can trust
2 someone that they feel can protect them
3 someone who cares
4 someone they feel they can make better (bad boy)
5 someone who at least tries to understand them
6 someone who is affectionate
7 someone who is balanced (bad & good)
8 someone who fits them into their life
2006-07-05 21:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are different I can only tell you about myself I dont know other girls and other girls only know whats in their heads and not others so I am sorry but your wasting your time
Samantha Polichetti :(-
2006-07-05 21:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one is like the other..women or men..it's all about individual personalities...don't generalize....
2006-07-05 21:26:37 · answer #9 · answered by rubi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think you're confused by that? just imagine how we feel.
2006-07-05 21:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋