Whenever we try to have a quiet restful day at home my kids drive me insane?

Question

Two boys 3 yrs apart constantly fighting and hitting each other. What to do? Stop them or let them work it out themselves.

to rockydriver22
My husband and me are separated so I am a single mom but pretty much was before I left.

Answer 1

i also have two boys they are 19 months apart... one minute they are fighting with one another the next they are like "two peas in a pod" What i do is let them fight it out but always stop it if it gets to the point where one of them will get hurt...
and they usually work it out with harming one another.. i think in most situations it is good to let them handle it on their own they learn to problem solve... Good Luck!!!

Answer 2

I am a stay at home mom of two little boys and they drive me nuts all day every day. I find that they are much easier to deal with outside. No matter what I want to do I can pretty much do it as long as they are outside. They will still torment each other as often as possible, but outside at home they have stuff to do and everything they need at no cost. You could put up a hammock, get a book and keep half an eye on them, and all while your still at home (I live by it). Good luck, I am there with you. My husband leaves alot to be desired in the parenting department too. Sometimes I feel like a single mom too.

Answer 3

never let them fight its a hard concept and even harder remedy to fix but there are books and other ways to deal with the problems but it takes a mommy and daddy to do their part each. i have 5 kids ranging from 6 to 14 and although i can say they are perfect but im very strict when it comes to fighting bickering and tattletaling if its a real fist fight i dont care who started it they are both up the creek with me. less offensive bickering and such warrants standing in the corner equal in minutes to their age a a 6 year old has about a 6 minute attention span and a 12 y/o about a 12 min. attention. in order for this to work you should talk to the kids and explain if they break the rules the choose to be punished and mom and dad must follow through every time and this could be a month before you rweally see it change but it will as far as quite time lmao lmao lmao lmao not such thing me and my wife split for a night to a local hotel right up the road just to get away its extremely relaxing and well other things good luck

Answer 4

You need to hire a baby sitter! Kids fighting? I have 7 kids, they fight, but you better belive that at some point durring my day, somebody or all of them are in time out! Dont tollerate fighting amoung siblings, it gets worse! Put whoever is fighting in timeout, separate them and tell to think about what they did, make them apologize. YOU are the MOM, You are the boss in your house, and my goodness, tell your husband to lay down some authoirty with your children. for some odd reason, kids respond better to lower tone voices like dads, better than nagging mom. Yelling doesnt work either.Like I said I am a mom of 7, I homeschool, and its really tough! Send me an email if you need some encouragement! admyr75@yahoo

Answer 5

I have the same problem too. my 7 yr old boy and a 4 yr old girl. I guess having some kind of activities like playing computer games or watching cartoons on TV will some how keep them occupied. oh yes, a good housemaid will really help.
otherwise , get your spouse to take turns to babysit

Answer 6

Summer time can be stressful on children as their basic routeen has been lost. Children love to have a consistant pattern in there lives even if they won't admit it. (smile).
I try to have special times all year for certain things, that way they have something to look forward to durning the day. Such as a reading time, a journaling time. a clean up time.
As far as hitting, OH my.. no hitting! Hands are not for hitting. Try getting a few cheep fun workbooks for them .. say at the dollor store. or walmart.
Walmart has workbooks for children that come with a CD. my children love them.
Also try to keep a "table" going each day with something new on it like one day Painting, one day playdough, one day micoscopes, keep it changing to keep them interested;if they fight maybe have two tables and allow them to explore the tables alone.
Do you have a garden? A garden is good for morning and evening time for them. In the morning they can go out and see how much things have grown... in the evening they can go out and pick things like the lettuce for dinner.

Answer 7

Separate them and take them to do things that they like to do indivually. Let them take up a sort of hobby and make sure that it is what they like so that they cannot rub it in the others face for a jealousy match later on. This will work if you can appropriately make it work.

Answer 8

Let them play fight, get a sitter go out on a date with ur husband alone

Answer 9

you need to get a sitter and get some time for just you!!! even if it is just to take a bath 1 hr or 2 to go to the mall alone i think if you do it 1 time a wk it might help you stress level with them

Answer 10

Duck tape their hands together, tape over their mouths and push them into a closet, you won't have to do this too many times before they figure out it's best to be quiet and good.