My son is about to turn 11. Over the past few months he has begun acting out towards his brothers and others. He hits more, spits at them, he reminds me of a toddler. (and he didn't go through the terrible two's, he's always been a kind average kid) When playing a game with his brothers or other kids, he wants to take things when it isn't his turn, he is pushy...I know puburty is knocking at his door, but spitting? He really does remind me more of a younger kid. I am worried about him. Any ideas moms and dads?
Thanks
2006-07-05 13:57:24 · 12 answers · asked by Greencastle PS 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
There is obviously more going on than you know.
There is a good chance he is being emotionally or physically bullied at school or that he is struggling to fit in.
At this age, he could also be going through a hormonal imbalance--yes, it happens to boys but we never talk about it. See your doctor.
He is also at an age where children struggle to identify themselves against peers and try to start to break free. This age also requires a great deal of parental involvement. Let him know that he is important.
He should be involved in some sort of activities in school or out. This gives him something to do, something to feel good about and something to look forward to him. Take time to find an activity that works for him. He has to find some success in what he does. Maybe he is in competition with his brothers (very likely) for your attention and for mastery of something they don't do. This would help him form his own identity and not be threatened by others.
It also sounds like he has a lack of respect for others. To be respectful, children have to be shown respect. Talk to him and see where he is lacking the respect that he should show to others.
If it continues or escalates, see a professional.
2006-07-06 04:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your concerns. I also have a boy that will soon be 11. Puberty is an ugly thing in kids these days. At this age he is trying to find out who he is and how far he can push your buttons. I would suggest taking him by himself and having a talk with him. He may also be jealous and want more of your attention while going thru his changes on the outside and inside. But there may also be other reasons for his behavior, try talking to him first then if that doesn't help matters try a different route. Good luck to you and him!
2006-07-06 18:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by melhtims 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age is not helping. I think it is a confusing age in general and some more than others act out to make sure they get attn for how they are feeling. You can try spending individual time and obviously addressing the spitting ect. I think peer pressure and growing up makes them feel pulled in between growing up and staying small. They are expected to act older, yet are not old enough for other things. I think classmates attitudes have a lot to do with mood swings at that age too.
And yes........the above may be true too. They test us, to see how far they can get and/or if we care enough to intervene. Some kids like to try to take their frustrations out on dear ol mom and siblings.
2006-07-11 18:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by roo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be alot of things really, to start with if you have moved house or moved his school, he may have taken bad to this. Another reason could be he is being bullied at school and he is responding by picking on his siblings and others around him he doesnt see as a threat. Also it could be some kind of abuse be it, mental,sexual or otherwise i would keep an eye out for any sign of this, like imaginary friends and such like. Also, like you say, puerty i knocking at his door and we all know how bad that is, it may just be all the emotional and physical changes are really getting to him and he may be acting out because he feels uncomfortable.
2006-07-06 09:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by chrissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any thing going on right now, a move, new school? Kids do everything for a reason like acting out, so something is going on or bothering him.
2006-07-05 14:44:38 · answer #5 · answered by mojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is definitely a warning sign. You need to set him down and have a talk. Something is going on, and you have to get to the bottom of it. If he won't talk to you find someone that you trust that he can talk with. Don't let this go on, it will only get worse.
2006-07-08 12:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by riddletricia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check to see who the new friends are.....he may be acting out because something is going on in his life that he does not know how to deal with...talk to him and let himknow that you are there if it is any thing he needs to talk about...
2006-07-05 19:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by destine4_69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe at school he is hanging with the wrong group of people.
2006-07-05 15:13:58 · answer #8 · answered by rhy_rhy_92 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL IT COULD BE A SIGN OF SOMETHING. A DISABILITY, A DISORDER, OR JUST HITTING PRETEENS.. TRY THE BOOK "THE EXPLOSIVE CHILD" OR STRONGER DISCIPLINE
2006-07-10 20:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by mistress_tiana_soprano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we tend to do that...... i am 11
2006-07-06 09:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by Manda_Loves_Billy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋