My ex-husband has chosen to live in homeless shelters and on the streets, living under bridges, where ever he can, in order to not have to work. He told my children himself that he was living like this, telling them was not my choice. How do I help them cope with this?
2006-07-05 13:47:32 · 9 answers · asked by msuesmiles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My children are ages 13, daughter, and son, 10.
2006-07-05 14:48:56 · update #1
Let them know that their father has made some poor choices in his life, and now he is having to deal with the consequences. It's probably just a period in his life that he is going to have to work through by himself. When he's ready to return to being a productive member of society, you can offer him some assistance.
Tell the kids they should refer to his situation as "a transitional phase in his life" and assure them that it will get better for him eventually.
Good luck!
Cheers
2006-07-05 13:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by sal the dog 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depending on their ages. It sounds as though we are talking about children old enough to understand decisions in life. I would also suggest some family counseling if they seemed too bothered by it. Just being open with the children, with the realization that this is still their father. Tough call. Just be honest by letting them know that some people choose things in life that seem to be the easy way because they may or may not feel as though they have support anywheres else. Kids understand a lot more than what we as the "adults" give them credit. Good Luck and Best wishes to you and your kids.
2006-07-05 13:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by mrsmomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your ex has some mental issues to deal with, so maybe you should just tell them that he is sick at the moment which is why he is acting in such an unusual manner and it's causing him to make some bad choices.
2006-07-05 13:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to protect them. Shame on him. He was a sperm donor. You must serve as strong mom to cover both roles. Tell them the truth, gear it to their age.
When he starts to work (if ever) get back child support.
2006-07-05 14:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are older kids so they should understand that their dad is a idiot. My uncle died living on the river banks and a loner and a alcoholic. Please keep the kids away from him.. All they really need is your love to guide them through.
2006-07-05 15:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by Terri L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should take the kids to visit him under the bridge
2006-07-05 13:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can use him as an example of what happens to lazy people.
2006-07-05 13:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by chemicalimbalance000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow sounds like you need professional advise
good luck
2006-07-05 13:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by MARY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let them visit daddy's "house."
2006-07-05 13:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by © 2007. Sammy Z. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋