I have met an amazing guy. We have kind of been seeing each other for 2 months or so. Anyway, he is from Europe and he's living here for work for another year. His job basically controls where he lives and when he moves. He only has little say in what country he goes to. I feel strongly about him, so strong that I even made the first move, which I have never done- yeah this is how bad I wanted him from the first night I met him. I know he will be leaving next year. I think my heart will eventually be broken into pieces. What should I do?
2006-07-05 13:18:56 · 21 answers · asked by this_girl_is_lost 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just get the kinky European sex while you can then show the boys in your home town the new Trix you learned
2006-07-05 13:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having a crush. They are very painful because you're the only one in it.
They are also very easy to get out of because they solve themselves. Right now, every moment of your existence is ruled by this guy. What is he doing? What is he thinking? When will I talk to him again, etc.
Will he love me, will he grow tired of me, etc. They are called crushes because they have no basis in reality. You have basically invented this guy. Do you note any weak points about him? Is there anything about him that you don't like? Probably not, because you are blinded by infatuation. Which is fine, and has been going on since we crawled out of the primeval swamp.
But.............don't make any wedding plans yet. ALWAYS give it a year. Yes, I said a year. 365 days. You don't really know who this guy is. You think you do, because you want to think you do, because you WANT the fantasy, which is what this whole thing is all about.
Right now, nothings real. This guy is your dream date. But, we all have to wake up from dreams. Also........find out what's going on in his head. See if you're both on the same page.
Hey, one thing about this board, it sooooooooo easy to give advice. But soooooo hard to deal with an obsession. I've been there. Give it time.
2006-07-05 13:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by brian k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe, it depends on how he feels about you right now also. Knowing that he is leaving, and if its love, maybe you could talk to him about your future together. If he feels as strongly as you do, maybe he wouldnt mind you tagging along. If he means that much to you, you would be willing to travel with him. Do what military families do, travel where ever Daddy or Mommy's job takes you. I have a girlfriend whois married and has two kids with a Navy guy. They live in Germany now. Good Luck!
2006-07-05 13:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your love strong enough and relationship great enough that would consider marrying him and would he consider staying here? If you're a citizen then he can get a green card or apply for residence if you two get married before it's time for him to leave. I don't know the exact sequence or timing that things need to occur, but you can find out online I'm sure.
2006-07-05 13:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is about living in the moment. Don't get too worrisome about the future. If you like this guy, then go for having a good time while you can. You may never know what the future holds for you.
2006-07-05 13:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by Expecting a Girl June 5th!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel strongly about him, keep with it. The two of you can make it if it was meant to be then it will be. Take a chance you only live once.
2006-07-05 13:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by jo22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a broken heart right now and it SUCKS!! You need to talk to him about how you look at the future. Take care of it now because a broken heart SUCKS!! I wish I could fade away without anyone knowing it because she quit on me and gave up on me when I need her most.
2006-07-05 13:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what u are writing, i see that you know that he will surely relocate. i would advise you to forget about him, only be casual friends. now if you are looking for a short term relationship then go for it (might be very risky) outside that forget him and move on to better things. relationship is not the end of life but living and fulfilling your purpose here on earth.
2006-07-05 13:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by timelord 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with him anyway...at least U no before hand...so its good, he does not lie about it. Also everyone of us, man/woman...we all hat our hearts broken one or twice...it will teach U what love really is...take it as a beautiful learning experience...be glad U will have that experience with him...it will last a life time...and who knows...he might feel the same way about U..
2006-07-05 13:26:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is what makes it so nice to be alive.
Freedom of choices we can make. You did not say how old you are. Communicate with him, you will be able to feel out where he stands. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
2006-07-05 13:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by tobinmbsc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control your heart! :) let things run how they will, and if your life takes you to him, then go with it. Even if you do get heart broken, its always worth it in the end. You'll always regret giving up love!
2006-07-05 13:24:35 · answer #11 · answered by Christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋