does anyone have true-fire suggestions for getting over someone who left me? i am struggling and this in turn is preventing me being able to move on and give other people a 'chance'.....
2006-07-05 13:10:37 · 22 answers · asked by Genevive 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah realize that he left you and that at least you weren't with a guy that didn't truly care about you and that he cared enough to leave you and to not be in a relationship that is a lie.
2006-07-05 13:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he left you, he doesn't deserve you.
Here goes an suggestion:
I read this idea in the book " He's Just Not That Into You" and it help me a great deal.
In the book they tell you to do this little test:
they ask you to state all the reasons you can come up for the reasons he left you and write them down and then turn the page to see what that means. You then spend a couple of minutes writing them down. Then when you turn the page you see this written (more or less, can't recall the exact words):
Every minute of your life is precious and important, and you just spend a couple of minutes of your precious life on someone that doesn't even spend a second thinking about you?
Enjoy yourself and don't give him the power of wasting any second of your life on him.
Every time you find yourself thinking or worrying about him, think of something else you could do more useful, and after you do it you will find a certain happiness of just thinking "At least I didn't waste that time on him! I made something for myself."
In time it gets better and better.
It worked for me.
Hope it helps.
2006-07-05 13:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mary7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time you'd usually spend with him with your friends and family. Volunteer somewhere, or join a gym. Often times, they have classes for different hobbies, basket making, painting, sewing, pottery, all kinda things. Look for something like that, you can go out and learn new things and meet new people. It doesn't necessarily mean you will forget about the person, because it doesn't work that way, but if you occupy yourself with other things, it doesn't hurt half as bad. Remember, you need to be comfortable with yourself and who you are, before you can be all that you need to be in a relationship. You're best off knowing yourself and developing your own fine qualities. And above all, remember: Just because you're "alone" that doesn't give you an excuse to be "lonely." Good luck, I know it's hard!
2006-07-07 09:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by Tessa ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how long has it been since the person left you? I mean I think after something like that everyone needs some time to themselves to think and reflect. When you feel ready to get back out there take it slow one step at a time. Approach every new person/opportunity with an open mind and always follow your heart it will lead you in the right direction.
2006-07-05 13:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he left you then the bastard was no good anyways. Why toucher your self over some one who cut-n-run. As i see it he was not even man enough to try to work things out. Mr right is out there and your ex did you a favor by breaking up. Cant go out with trash and expect perfection.
2006-07-05 13:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You basically have to find something or some one to take your mind off of this guy . I always felt like there should be no reason 4 a woman not to have some body . but i know thees things happen. so don't worry trouble don't last always it want be this way for ever. til then keep ya head up.
2006-07-05 13:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by K-SOLO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah. yeah it is hard to get over someone right away especially when you spent so much time with that person. just chill out a bit and go have some fun. get together with some friends and family. enjoy yourself. i am sure sooner or later you will be okay.
2006-07-05 13:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by DORKALICIOUS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only thing that heal you. It took awhile for me. It help that she was mean and nasty to me. Take some time to do something for you. No need to rush out into another relationship. Good Luck.
2006-07-05 13:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by RussellMania 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a while to turn off what it took a while to turn on. keep reminding yoourself what a selfish person he is and that it is his loss and when he comes back begging, you will get the pleasure of sayin no.
2006-07-10 12:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love yourself-that's the best way to get over love lost because you're the one that deserves that love before giving it (your love) to someone else. When you've learned to do that, then the right person will come along and you'll know it's right for you because you've learned to think of yourself before trying to please others.
2006-07-05 13:17:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋