I am 18 and I have been dating this guy for 3yrs, I have never had any type of sexual contact at all besides making out, I do love this guy and I want to be with him, he is the one I want to be sexual with but I want to be married first.....so do you think he wants to marry me just for that or what?
2006-07-05 13:00:15 · 12 answers · asked by martini 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If he has gone three years without pressuring sex and has stayed with you and has asked. Then most likely he is not just after sex, but be prepared the night of your wedding (that will be on his mind - big time).. The question is more "Do you want to be married?' Your answer shows a lack of readiness. There is nothing wrong with waiting. However, if you feel you are ready then go for it.
2006-07-05 15:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mae V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get to decide when and where and with whom. If you are 18 now and have been dating the same boy for 3 years, you haven't had a chance to see what's really going on in the world. To be married at 18 is very young in this day and age. You seem have a few doubts about this relationship that need to be resolved before you make any permanent plans. If he really loves you he should understand your feelings. Don't get married just to have sex. Stick to your guns, it's your body. Also think about your future. Do you want a career, college, get to know other people. There are lots of fish in the sea and you have plenty of bait. Don't toss it overboard to the first fish that comes along.
2006-07-05 20:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're sure (as humanly possible) he never cheated on you and he's waited 3 years he's probably serious about marrying you. I still think 18 is young because when I think back to when I was 18 I've changed so much for the better. I always thought it was important to live the best live you can before sharing it with someone, otherwise you never know what was possible for YOU (not the tow of you). But then again, some people marry young and it last forever. Whatever your decision, I wish you ALL the best!!!
2006-07-05 22:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by IluvtheLORD!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, congratulations on staying a virgin after dating for 3 years - that's not easy.
Second, has he proposed? If he has, it is possible that is all he is after but only he knows what he is thinking. I'm sure if you asked him he'll say he proposed for reasons other than sex but the question is do you believe him. If you have serious doubts, you need to think long and hard about marrying him.
2006-07-06 22:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to what you believe. You are both going to change a lot in the next few years as you establish yourselves in adulthood. Don't get married early just because of that. If he has already proposed, make it a long engagement. See if he is willing to wait for you.
Best wishes.
2006-07-05 20:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. He stayed with you for three years and didn't ask for anything else. so you have nothing to worry about. He loves you for you and that's the good thing. The greastest gift a girl can give a guy is the one on the wedding night if you know what I mean. So congrats and stop worring so much he loves you for you and that's what matters most.
2006-07-05 23:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he would stick around for 3 years just to marry you to take your virginity.
2006-07-05 20:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have waited this long you can wait longer...and if he has respected your beliefs till now which is hard to say about a lot of guys. stick to what you believe and he would be crazy to marry you just for your virginity...i would like to believe that he is smarter than that
2006-07-05 20:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by MARY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he wants to marry you cause he loves you not becaus ehe wants to get you in the sack...Go w/ your heart
2006-07-06 00:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by cowgirl41098 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont wait till marriage, youve been with the guy 3 years, do it already or he may do it with someone else.
2006-07-05 20:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by enviroman2222 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋