People of Asian descent please answer!: How is it that most Asian children are extrememly well behaved? I am not trying to be stereotypical it is just that I rarely see anyone who is of Asian descent with an unruly child and would like some tips. My son is 16 months old. Do you punish or spank your children? What other means of discipline do you use?
2006-07-05 12:46:35 · 8 answers · asked by mommy_2_little_man 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I'm not Asian but my hubby and in-laws are. They are taught very strongly to respect their parents. I observed an interaction between my SIL and her son once - she had to speak to him about his behavior and while she did she held a stick in her hand. I found out that she used that stick once and only once but each time she needed to discipline him she always had the stick to remind him of it. That is one thing I have seen.
Also, they are very attached to their children when they are young - they breastfeed into the preschool age and co-sleep forever. When the mother is with her children, she dotes on them and make sure they have everything they need. Children learn at a young age that they are very important to their parents. My husband's biggest fear when he was younger was to disappoint his mother. Not because she would hurt him but because he knew how much she did for him. I see this also in his older nephews - they are in their upper teens and 20s and still are afraid to hurt their mother for all she has done for them.
2006-07-05 12:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter where you're white, black, asian, or whatever; discipline starts in the home. If you don't teach your child right from wrong, they're are bond to put you with hell. Although I am not a parent, or even married i do know one thing NEVER let your child start talking back, cuz once they got a hold of you.... lets just say you'll probably end up on one of those talk shows, balling your eye out because you can't control you little one. But hey you're probably going to be a way parent then I will. Good luck, and kids are well behaved because we are WELL DISCIPLINED.
Juggiejones OUT
2006-07-05 20:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by Shalyn V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am asian and I grew up here in America. Most asian parents teach their children how to be respectful to adults at a very early age. We are taught how to treat the teacher with respect and listen to the teacher. My mother and father taught me morals and values and character that have helped me stay out of trouble. They never punished me or spanked me growing up. I think the reason why I succeeded in school very well is because my parents always checked up on me and made me do my homework and kept telling me everyday to respect authority (teacher). I still carry the same discipline thanks to my parents.
2006-07-05 19:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by TiredofIdiots 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Y'know what... I have no idea. I was always quiet and behaved and my sister (from another dad) is the complete opposite! I'm guessing we have the "death glare"? Back in the day, my little cousins were scared of my dad, and he never did anything, just stood there.
Maybe it's because Asians are more serious.
2006-07-05 19:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kiri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is because of the parents and teachers...
i think..
they are very strict and cruel at a times..
punishment is the answer...
1) kneel down and raise your hand
2) sit down on your imaginary seat
3) you get hit...( i mean even the elementry teachers hit your hand with the thin edge of the ruler or a thin stick...
dont start the punishment in the early age...
and dont stress it too much, they may lead to suicide...
but i also found out it is actually good for your body to be hitted...
(esp hands and feet)
2006-07-06 22:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by aebin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i m not exactly an asian but i know the secret from my own.
no beating, no punishment, no lies!!, no tricks.. just tell the truth and leave him/her to see his/her own truths. do not give too much advice and do not try to make desicions for his/her own life.. just let things be free...
2006-07-05 19:53:48 · answer #6 · answered by terrament 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the culture of respect that they teach. one of my best friends is Japanese and she's appalled at what american kids get away with. it's the parents and the envionment not the kids
2006-07-05 20:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by Brandie C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because if they don't listen, they will get a beat down when they get home.
2006-07-09 23:19:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋