I've been living with my husbands parents since he's been in iraq, and his little brother is 4 years younger than me and he doesnt tell his parents anything, he lies, he is spoiled rotten and every once in a while he will leave his AIM conversations up. So I read them just to see what he talks about, and he says he was drinking, hes only 15, he was mugged, he made a homemade bomb, and all of this bad stuff he doesnt tell his parents. what should i do?
2006-07-05 12:46:03 · 9 answers · asked by jsully87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have already told my husband, he just tells me what he thinks, and its kinda hard because if i just tell his parents, then they talk to him but it doesnt change anything. they dont disipline him AT ALL, and he wont listen to me, he hates my guts because he feels intruded on since i came to live with them, and Im only here for another month. Im just at a total loss for an answer!
2006-07-05 12:54:05 · update #1
tell your husband first.
2006-07-05 12:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by KathyB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no......do NOT tell your husband. He has enough concerns.
First, I would print out his aim conversations.
Then I'd ask him to please speak with his parents about the things that he's doing. Because if he does not tell his parents, you will. But DONT let him know that you have the evidence.
If he chooses not to tell, then you go to them, and make it clear that you will back up what you're saying if need be. (but continue to keep the evidence to yourself)
If he comes clean, all's well and good. If not, that's when you present the evidence.
He could be bluffing, playing big online. Maybe has not done any of what he says.
2006-07-05 12:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being nosy, and should mind your own business. He's your brother-in-law, not your son. If you talk to anyone, you have to admit that you were invading his privacy.
Make sure you start out with that before you tell anyone.
And anyway, just because he says these things on AIM doesn't really mean he does them. If he lies to his parents, why wouldn't he lie to his friends?
2006-07-05 12:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by grinningleaf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should confront this little boy. He might be acting out because he is missing his brother and is worried about him. Either way, he needs to stop before he gets in some major trouble. Talk to him and if he continues his behavior, talk to his parents.
2006-07-05 12:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by simpleplan0013 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was you i would tell his parents cause he shouldnt be allowed to get away with that. Plus if e is rotten he needs to be punished
2006-07-05 13:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by David P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your husband know about it. Raise your concern with him about his brother. Your husband loves his brother, he'll handle from there on for you. Get it off your chest, you shouldn't have to deal with this issue.
2006-07-05 12:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband. He can tell his parents about his brother if he thinks it is appropriate. It is not your place. It would only bring you more grief.
2006-07-05 12:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by Ronna P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband to tell his parents immediately
2006-07-05 12:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by cactus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell it!!!
and provide proof!
2006-07-05 12:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by leo29sexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋