Is "tradition" that important to you?
2006-07-05 12:38:58 · 26 answers · asked by TCBgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Nope!
2006-07-05 12:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
is tradition THAT important to YOU?
Why do you have to adhere to what others always do or dont.
Do what you want to do. Have the parent in the wedding, why not? you are considering it.
Unless that parent bring you bad memories, I dont see why not !
If tradition is important to some its ok, but many people have not been brought up under traditional values so dont even think waht do others think. They are probably not even thinking about yr little dilemma.
I would just consider if its yr wedding, if its going to be comfortable for me to have that parent and make sure you are ok with it. That it doesnt bring you suffering on yr wedding day or that it may distract from other than being a glorious wedding.
A WEDDING IS A PRECIOUS MOMENT IN LIFE THAT SHOUDL ONLY HAPPEN ONCE AND IT STAYS IN YR MIND FOR THE REST OF YR LIFE. NOW, DO YOU WANT YR PARENT INTHE WEDDING OR NOT?
do you want to share yr happiness and wedding moments with yr parent or not?
do you want to share that love and perhaps turn around things so that from now on, all will even be better and maybe the long lost relation with that parent gets better now.
why not?
2006-07-05 19:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by noteparece? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes weddings are a great chance to bury the hatchet and start anew. Inviting a parent to a wedding even if they are not involved with you is sometimes the right thing to do. Sometimes parents find it difficult for one reason or another to connect with their kids, It gives them a chance to get re-involved in your life. If you blow them off...you might regret it at some future date.
2006-07-05 19:43:56 · answer #3 · answered by dpon62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Tradition is important to me. But I am not saying that I am right. But this why I feel so. They may not be always right in what they did or what they do but we can be better than them in some ways. Just think that they are old and the role is reversed now. Don't repeat their mistake. Let it go and the pain goes away slowly but you'll heal sooner or later and you'll feel better.
2006-07-05 19:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by viv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends. If the parent wanted to be involved I would definitely not deny them that. It's more than tradition. It's about love and bonding. If they rejected my request, no big deal. Just move on with plans.
2006-07-05 19:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by yummymummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and Yes. Knowing that you did what you had to do and not to feel guilty later on. Parents brought you to this world, and that was a gift unless you hate your life then, that's another issue. Traditions are important sometimes. If we were to ignore everything in this life then what's left that we consider ligit.... Life would be blaaaahhhh.
2006-07-05 19:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by Sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I allowed my father to attend my wedding, but he did not participate in the ceremony. Rather, my grandfather walked me down the isle because he supported my mother financially and taught me important things, like how to play chess. So, for me, allowing him to be there was okay but since he did not participate in my life he did not participate in my wedding. The decision of what to do about parents who have not been a part of your life is a personal one and it really depends on a lot of different factors. It is your day, do what you feel is right.
2006-07-05 19:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by Redshift Agenda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't, I'll have the people or the person who has been there for me involved in the wedding. And give the rest invitations.
2006-07-05 19:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for me, i like tradition, but my dad and i never ever got along and he was never happy with me for nothing, i was never good enough and i was saposivley an embarrassement to him he could not talk to his friends. he was someone who made me go threw a deep depression from age 13 to 22 or so and only i got myself out of it and made myself strong. being 25 now and being married for three months now i am verry happy. but before the wedding i did not want anything to do with him at all much less wanted him there at my wedding. but then something hit me, my dad was always the bad person not me, so why did i want to be like him now by not having him at my wedding? i decided that maybe i should just invite him i mean i had to think about more than just me. i found out thew thinking alot, many days of it. that i do love my dad, i know we dont get along but i dont hate him, and so i felt that if he died later on in life and i looked at my wedding photos i would feel horrible for not letting him have that moment with me, i would regret not having him there cause i know deep inside that he dont like who he is and i know he wishes he could change, so i could not hold anything against him, i had to be the bigger better person in life and now i feel good that i will have not regrets with choosing to have him there, especialy when i have my own kids and they grow up and see those pictures and say oh thats grandpa with you and dady, they wont be asking why grandpa isnt there if he is saposed to be an important part of me getting married. so you have to wiegh things out and think if you realy want to keep what is going on between you and your father going, or if you want to stop it and be that bigger better person, not just for the tilttle of bigger better but cause you are genuine about it. good luck.
2006-07-05 19:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave the parent out. I would still invite them to the wedding, but don't have them in the wedding. Its your wedding, don't do anything that you don't feel comfortable with.
2006-07-05 19:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would invite them; but in the wedding that would be a stretch u don't owe any absent parent anything, that's ur dayjust be happy.
2006-07-05 19:43:46 · answer #11 · answered by Roe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋