He calls me fat, ugly, and stupid. He knows it really hurts me, but does it anyway. I cry all of the time. He does not seem bothered by it, and keeps on doing it.
2006-07-05 12:26:36 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ignore him. The only reason he keeps doing it is to get a reaction out of you. Quit reacting to him. Don't let it know it hurts you. Just pretend like he isn't even there. Eventually he will grow up and stop acting like a kindergardener.
2006-07-05 12:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by Cricket 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you and how old is he? Can you talk with your parents or a trusted adult? This is abuse and needs to stop. Seek out a counselor at school or church. In the mean time, hold your head up and never allow him the pleasure of seeing you cry. Say to yourself every time he calls you names, "I'm attractive and smart" and walk away from him. What he thinks doens't matter. I would also hope he could get some help. He may end up to be an abusive spouse some day. I'm very sorry this is happening, but you can get through. Be strong! You will be old enough to leave one day and you won't have to put up with him any longer. This is what saved me from my abusive older sister. I knew I wouldn't have to live with her forever. By the way, I'm doing very, very well!
2006-07-05 19:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by smokenmirrors 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might sound a bit off the wall to you but if he does not stop and your parents will not make him stop...Then you have to get lower than a worm and blackmail your brother into doing this...How???? In relationships between brother and sister [assuming he is the oldest] someone always do thing that they are not suppose to do...Something the parents do not want him to do or know that he is doing it...Whatever it is....What you need to do is to find these things your older brother is doing...Once you have the proof of what he is doing you need to tell him you know what is happening and what he is doing...And if he does not stop teasing you that you will have to tell on him...Try that and I hope it works for you....And if you are a little over weight try dropping some of those extra pounds and if he see you trying to loose it he might also stop ripping into you...And if you feel you are stupid which I am not saying you are try studying a little harder...
2006-07-05 19:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by newyorkcitypimp1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a brother and thats what they do. first of all where are your parents and why do they let him behave this way? secondly you need to realize that he is doing it simply because it does hurt, that gives him power over you and you let him. here is the way it works, you have to allow him to cause you pain in order for it to work, the things he says don't change who you are, they don't make you fat or ugly or stupid he chooses those things because he knows they hurt you. if you quit reacting, no matter how hard it is at first, he'll quit doing it because it won't be fun for him anymore.
think of it this way, if someone poked you in the chest over and over and you moved and wiggled and said stop it and cried they would keep doing it because they are getting a reaction, if someone poked you in the chest over and over and you did and said nothing how long do you think it would take for them to get bored with that and go pick on someone else? its exactly the same thing.
i know it will be very very hard, but when he says you are fat THINK really loud in your brain i am not fat, when he says you are stupid think really loud in your brain i'm smarter than you, etc etc. all the way have a little smile on your face because you know you will win and he can't hurt you anymore, he'll be totally baffled and won't know what to think! let him say mean things YOU tell yourself GOOD things and block him out, soon you'll find it doesn't hurt you anymore and he'll stop doing it because you have taken away his power and guess what that means YOU WIN!! you can do this!
2006-07-05 19:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother before you were born got all the attention from your parents. Once you came along he had to share that attention with you. That can cause a little subconscious resentment.
Best thing to do is talk to your folks about getting counseling for you and your brother. (but that won't happen because you won't talk to your parents about it, you will be too embarrassed)
Your brother as he gets older either will cease to do this or he will do it for the rest of his life. You may just have to deal with it. Big brothers are the same everywhere, they all at one point or another treat their little brother like crap.
2006-07-05 19:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by lovpayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one How old is your Brother? and YOU?? If you are still living at home I first would talk to my parents and see if they could get him to stop calling you names As sounds like it is really pulling your self esteem down and it would bother him if the shoe was on the other foot If that doesnt help talking to your parents Then I would suggest you maybe talk to someone at school or at your church to see what they can suggest to you too Good Luck and hopefully YOUR brother quits
2006-07-05 19:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by chubbycheeks012003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it feels good to be mean back. My little brother is like that too so i just be as mean 2 him as he is 2 me. If u get really angry just write and angry letter and let your anger out there just never give him the letter. If u let your anger out in a letter then you wont say something 2 your brother u might regret later.
2006-07-05 19:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by chicadee13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In never had brothers and I see that allot. I think you should let him no it hurts your feelings. Let him no by him being older he has to set an example for you .I have seen so many times that it takes something bad to happen before people realize they were wrong.
2006-07-05 19:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by stealth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is a jerk and you should just ignore him....When he starts on you leave the room....
I dealt with that when I was younger and it did hurt, but now both of my brothers are fat and look pregnant, so now is my turn to make fun of them....
Give it time Karma will come back to him....
2006-07-05 19:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try writing it in a letter to him.
Ask your mom/dad to protect you from him. If this was a stranger doing this they sure would.
If he is getting a big reaction out of you then that might be what he wants so dont give him one.
Know that one day he will grow up and not be so insecure.
2006-07-05 19:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by cloud9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋