My husband says that my 16 month old son is going through a phase because he cries and wants us to pick him up sometimes. He cries really hard and its really difficult for me to listen to. My husband thinks that its funny that he cries like this and says that he is just spoiled. What do you think?
2006-07-05 12:25:08 · 18 answers · asked by mommy_2_little_man 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I disagree with your husband. I think your son probably not feeling well or pee on his diaper... or it could be he is bored and wants some attention.
2006-07-05 12:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by prawn_headed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot of reasons your little one could be crying. Your son could be teething, ear infections, etc. Your son could also be totally going through a phase of separation anxiety. Just about every little one I know have gone through this. The best thing to do is to first, make sure your son is not ill or in pain. If he's neither of those, try to soothe him and talk to him and tell him what you are doing. Even if your son might not know exactly what's going on, he'll feel better w/ the even and soothing tones. Hope that helps. I defintely don't think it's spoiling.
2006-07-05 19:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by desha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 17 month old twin boys. I think this might be a phase. My boys went through a phase (somewhat in it right now) where they would go hysterical everything i (or my husband) left for work. Within a minute, they were fine. When I am at home and they cry just to be held, I will not do it. If they trip, I usually don't pick them up. The one used to cry, but he usually gets right up now. The twin is more sensitive and wants to be held and comforted more.
2006-07-05 21:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by goofnwfy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Do you pick him up every time he cries? If so, then your husband is correct that he is being spoiled. I know you're thinking 'If I pick my son up when he cries how is that spoiling him?' If you think about it, he will learn VERY quickly that this is how to get mommy to do what he wants done and he will begin to use this technique for other things. Your best bet is to tell him that the best way to get your attention is to come over to you, give you a hug and say 'I Love You Mommy!'. Believe me, kids at that age understand to a degree what is going on. I used this technique with my son, ignoring him when he came to me in a negative way and loving him when he came to me positive, and he rarely cried or threw a temper tantrum for my attention.
2006-07-05 19:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you know that he is not in pain or sick, it could be a phase... children go through many phases like this. All you can do is NOT pick him up when he is acting out this way or he will never stop and it will only be harder to break in the future....You can go to a great website that can help with these issues. It's www.babycenter.com... you can also get tips from other moms and dads who have childern going through the same thing.
2006-07-05 19:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by busy mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son did the same thing about the same age. It really is a phase. Give him the love and attention he needs at this phase, after awhile, he'll get to the point that he doesn't want held or picked up.
2006-07-11 09:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by colleend01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old grandma here: I think you can never hold a baby too much. I am sure a LOT of people will not be happy with that. Loving is not spoiling. We do need to be held and we grow. The orphanages can attest to that. Babies do not develop who are not held. Yes, the dishes are waiting and there is a cloud of dust under the bed but in 18 years he or she will be gone and you will think back to these months which vanished all too soon.
2006-07-05 19:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by antiekmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends, I suppose. If your son does not have anything wrong with him and he just wants you to pick him up, that means that he is spoiled. My little sister does the same thing, and we have to be sure not to pick her up too often when she cries because if you do that, the baby will become more spoiled and difficult to deal with when they hit terrible 2s and 3s.
2006-07-05 19:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by kellykellykelly16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are spoiling him a little bit too much. But I've seen plenty of kids cry. From my little sister to all my litttle cousins. So yeah it's basically just a phase but picking them up once in a while won't hurt.
2006-07-05 19:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a phase try to cut the picking up time in half and see if he gets better, but love and pick him up as much as you can, it should be a phase my daughter did it but it only lasted about a month. try different things to stop him from crying with out picking him up. good luck
2006-07-05 19:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by richard_kelly01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 15 month old is starting to do the same. I think it is just a stage. My other 2 boys did the same thing between 14 to 20 months. They are so independent on their own levels, however, they still need unlimited hugs and kisses from mommy and daddy ;-)
2006-07-05 19:32:33 · answer #11 · answered by mom of josh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋