Is dating Biblical?

Question

Ok seriously think about it. No where in the Bible does GOD refer to dating. Girls are literally stuck with 50 year guys who just chose them. I'm not saying we should do that but I think that dating at a young age is kinda hard for a Christian to do. Because you can endup worshiping you're bf or gf. What's your thoughts?

Answer 1

No, my church teaches us not to date but just have friends. And observe the person, for example: see how he talks to his parents and how he interacts with his family. Observe how he relates to others, ect....and once you really have gotten to know the person and until you come to the desion that "he's is a person you would like to marry" and the same with him. That's when you take the next step, ingagement. It works! That's how me and my husband did it.

Answer 2

It's not exactly "biblical", but that doesn't make it wrong. That's getting -absurdly- ridgid about adhering to the gospel. If you were to go along and try to do everything just as it's portrayed in the bible you'd probably be in an arranged marriage by your late teens or a marriage that came from an almost equally depthless basis.

Dating is essential. Depriving one of experience before they get older and have the oppurtunity to get very very serious in relationships (getting into the idea of marriage) is a bad idea. You don't have a clue what you --really truly-- want and need from a relationship without being with a few people first. All you have are ideals that may not be (probably arn't) all that they seem.

Answer 3

Figuratively speaking, you are right about the worshiping part, young people have young inexperienced hearts. But as far as dating goes, times have changed. I really dont' even see a point in dating at a young age, it can lead to the unexpected, unwanted, and regretted, but really dating is not Biblical. In the Bible days, things were arranged. I do think that courting as an adult is much more fulfilling and meaningful than childhood dating. At least when you let God chose your mate.

Answer 4

i think your right, I'm a christian and I didn't start dating until I was 16, I found a girl at church and we have been dating for almost 3 and half years. But yeah I know what you mean, you can start worshiping your gf, It depends on the kids, And don't listen to any of the people that say that Christians should date non-Christians, it says in the Bible dont be unequally yoked (of different values, religion, etc,) especially in the teen years, one of my best decisions so far in life was not to date a non-Christian

Answer 5

babe try and just enjoy life , date , have fun , but of course go with your own morals on what is right and wrong
remember that what is done in the bible is a totally different era from now , tI'mes have changed , views have changed and although i am saying this as a non christian im sure others will agree
dating is good , it helps you get to know a person better before you commit to them in any way
as long as it is harmless and you aren't doing anything you should be ashamed of , then i cant see how it would contradict your religion in any way
if i could give advice simply from a mothers point of view instead of religious ... just be careful and don't get involved too quickly
enjoy xx

Answer 6

My thoughts are that organized religions simply serve to control people. The Bible says a lot of things that we DO NOT follow today, so why should we refrain from something because it isn't in there? I believe in God, but I also believe that the Bible was written by men with the purpose of controlling others and that most of it doesn't apply today.

Answer 7

If you know your priorities and have them in order, I don't see how you can worship anyone other than God.

How else will you get to know a person?

In Bible days marriages were arranged. Makes the poor girl sound like a piece of real estate. I like dating better.
I had to date my husband before I knew I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life.

Answer 8

It was tough in biblical times, still is but different. God does want us to have companions. They also had alot of wives back then it was common practise. Interesting situations to say the least.
Until a covenant of marriage has been attained, God comes first, when you are married your husband answers to God, you answer to your husband. Therefore girls I hope you get the right man. If you don't get a good man, problems! Make yourdecisions with prayer for a mate, do your best to make him happy, he should do his best to make you happy. Don't get intimate unless you are married it blurrs your instinct.

Answer 9

Dating is important to christian teenagers to do. I think it is great if they date someone who isnt a christian so that way they can get their heads out of their asses and see the big world as it is. They get a new view on lifestyles and religions which being just a christian does not allow.

Answer 10

We practice courting as a way for our teens/young adults to find a husband/wife. Essentially, they date but in a group setting or a chaperone(spelling?). I know this sounds archaic, but it keeps everyone honest and keeps the couple focused on each other and inhibits promiscuity. It also allows time for the mom and dad to get to know this new person and give (hopefully) good insight to their son/daughter. I know quite a few couples who started this way and are quite happy and going strong. They fell in love for the right reasons and now when the tough times come, and they have, they stick together and get through them. So thats my two cents worth.

Answer 11

Dating is a fairly modern concept. It allows fredom of choice in a life partner for what use to be arranged marriages. I think God likes the concept but I agree that most people in their teens and earlt twenties are not always mature enough to handle it.