My boyfriend of 5 1/2 years left me last week,he`s left me to bring up our 3 1/2 year old son although he still wants to be in contact with him,anyway people are telling me to start going ouy again and try meet somebody new,but i dont think it will be that easy as who would want a 24 year old single mum who has a son with learning difficulties,i was just wondering if i`m right to think this way???
2006-07-05 12:16:21 · 12 answers · asked by onlyme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he left u last week or 2 seconds ago, he left u for a reason. it could be entirely his fault but u are just living part of your life that will get you thinking. whts have u done for the past five yea
rs, what wud u want to do in the next five years? am very sory to hear about it but live is too beautiful to ruine over it.
theres indeed loads of people i know who wants to go out with someone like u and they could love your child more than you.
so are entirely wrong to think this way, i think u are still under the shock but stand up high and pride and start livin your life
tkcr
2006-07-05 14:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's very natural to think the way you do especially after such a longstanding relationship just fell apart. I think that there are a lot of people who would like to meet you and your son, though.
I would say that you do need friends around you just now - and maybe one or two new ones. However, it may be too soon to go looking for a 'replacement BF'. You will probably find such a person gradually and when you are least looking for him, if you know what I mean. When you do, he will want you because you are you and he will also know what he is letting himself in for - which may not have been the case with your ex.
Just because you already have a child (and one with problems of his own) doesn't make you less of a person. In fact, quite the reverse. Your situation may seem to scare some guys off, but, frankly, they wouldn't be worth a second look, anyway, would they?
My daughter (26) has a daughter of 7 and she got married in January to a lovely guy who has taken on my grand daughter as if she was his own. My daughter met him at a friend's barbecue and for quite a while they were just friends.
2006-07-05 12:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask yourself why there was a 5 1/2 year relationship with no marriage, especially when now there is a child involved. Was it his fear of marriage or yours? The real question here, is why would you put up all these years with a man who never offered you a long-term commitment?
Maybe what you need is counselling to understand why you would put yourself in that position. You deserve better.
2006-07-05 16:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by cheekandfolly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure its not going to be as easy as it was when it was just you. But any real man wouldn't blink at taking on you and your child. The trick is to find a real man and not just a boy pretending to be a man.
There are millions of men out there who want a family and someone to come home to.
If you have low expectations then thats what you get.
Have some fun. Take time to heal the hurt. But try not to dwell on it.
Im sure you have a lot to offer someone.
Take care!
2006-07-05 12:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by Rob G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need time to get over what has happened. If you've been with someone that long, you won't be able to just forget about that in five minutes. Nothing will alter the fact that your ex is your son's dad, but when you're ready to meet someone new, there'll be someone out there ready to accept the fact that you have a child.
2006-07-05 12:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by randomguy14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry i know you wanted male responses! But i must say they arn't all so blind! An opportunity to be with a youngy mummy appeals to alot of men! Do start going out again but on the intension to have fun! And in time you'll meet a wonderful man! Who will be a fantastic role model for your son!
2006-07-05 12:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by pinkgurgi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I have gone out with and lived with someone who had a child by someone else. I accepted the child as if it were mine because thats part of the deal when you live with someone. I chose the girl becasue I liked her and the child was just another part of her.
As it happens it didnt work out, but not because of the child, and one of my biggest regrets is after bringing the child up for a few years I no longer have contact with him.
The only thing you have to do is be more careful on the person you chose and be up front as soon as you can. If it frightens them off they weren't what you were looking for anyway.
2006-07-05 12:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by dopeysaurus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to go out?
That is the real question.
Do you want to meet someone else?
The boy would be better off if his mum was happy don't you think?
PS all boys have learning difficulties. LOL
Just some grow up and take care ofwhat they love.
If it is you they love... they will love your son.
2006-07-05 12:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You a totally wrong thinking this way, there are 1000s of guys that would wanna date you
2006-07-05 12:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by quamig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, if he left only last week, why would your friends? tell you to start dating already? He may come back next week!
2006-07-05 13:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by mikers1117 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋