It's been a while since I've been on a date and I'm still in love with my ex, but I promised my buddy I'd go out with this girl that thinks I'm great. I'm great at making people laugh, and so is she. I'm actually looking forward to it. how do I dress? how do I act? aaaahhh it's been so long! I don't want her to end up thinking I'm weird. I know how to be myself, but I don't know how I'm going to act to the next girl. I don't want to end up blowing her off. Girls how do you want to be treated by a new guy...especially if you're outgoing?
2006-07-05 11:46:16 · 12 answers · asked by Rockstar 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks everybody!
2006-07-05 13:56:28 · update #1
you just be you, anything else is fake and impossible to maintain, you don't want to start out playing games, be yourself and you will either be compatible or you won't. the still in love with your ex thing worries me though, if this goes well make sure you don't get any further in to it until you resolve that because if you do you'll just hurt this girl and she doesn't deserve that. respect, kindness, interest in what she is really saying are all good things to give someone. a person likes another person based on how being with that person makes them feel about themselves, sounds complicated but its really quite simple.
2006-07-05 11:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are looking forward to going out on this date then that is a good start. You should dress up but not too much...look nice. Maybe jeans and a button up with some cologne, but not too much. Act like yourself... don't put up a front. I would want a new guy to be able to carry a good conversation, especially when we first meet- b/c if you can't hold at least a decent conversation you are wasting yours and her time. Take her to a nice place...doesn't have to be OMG nice- just chill. Since you can make ppl laugh then you better make her laugh, but don't act like a clown. If you are still in love with your ex you better forget about her on the date. Keep it cool. If she ends up thinking you are weird then oh well. There are plenty of girls that would more than likely consider going out with you anyway. Especially b/c you show that you at least care about the date. Good luck and have fun.
2006-07-05 11:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by ♥eLizAbEtH♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid extensive talk about politics, religon, and your ex's. These are hot topics that are totally unnessary for the first 10 dates. After that, then venture deeper. Dress casual, and don't over pour on the colonge, she might think you opted out of a shower!
Ask her about her, like how many brothers and sisters she has, or about her job. Offer answers to the question after she has answered, it reciprocates the conversation. Remember, she's probably as nervous about impressing you too. Make her feel at ease. If things are going down hill, have somone buzz you on your phone and look at the number in front of her and say "Oh no, it's mom, she's been kinda sick lately, I told her to call me if she needed something" I use that one ALL the time. Saves face and your evening!
2006-07-05 11:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can only be u, nver try to fake who u r for another person.... if u still love ur ex what is teh problem... well going out will let u know if u r ready to date, u may want to go somewhere casual and just talk or eat a meal take a walk u know not putting yourself in teh spotlight u know... whew i wish the guy i went on a date w on saturday would hve asked for tips... ahahah u dont go to there house after dinner n drinks to watch a movie as u look through theri house and sit on tehir bed liek u r expecting something or how about u dont ask her about her fav sex positions oh my god and at teh end of teh night say u can see urself living in her place wtf he was tripping hahahahahahahahaah
2006-07-05 11:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's outgoing then she'll love the fact that you can make her and other ppl laugh and even if a guy is kind of nerdy its attractive because it's who he is even if its something like- he likes star wars WAY too much- its cute and not like evryone else who tries to be Mr. Cool....and dress comfortable and casual just to hang out....don't make it seem like your trying to impress her or anything because then it's too easy for her to think that you're already interested...
2006-07-05 12:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by MC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself. The only way you're gonna blow it is if you act like something you don't know. You know yourself perfectly well so go with that.
2006-07-05 11:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by Janeyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay first of all your still in love with your ex?why would you go out with this girl and lead her on.before you go on any date get over your ex girlfriend.i am telling you .you can not be with someone when your still hung up on someone else.
2006-07-05 11:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by dede2772 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and be yourself. Be confident. Don't try and be too nice and polite... it looks fake. Just act like she is one of your old friends.
2006-07-05 11:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anna Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be you, relax and focus on your good qualities. figure out ways to point them out without overdoing it Think of it as going out to have a good time...nothing more
2006-07-05 11:54:11 · answer #9 · answered by Reka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just be your self and if she don't like you then shes not the gal for you.
2006-07-05 11:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by Brooke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋