ok, im gonna be 25 this month actually. I just graduated college with my masters and im searching for jobs, i just don't have money to get my own place right now. The problem is, i have to lie all the time to go out to do whatever i want. I want to sleep over my boyfriend's house whenever i want. It bothers me that he his female friends ( trust him though) who are a lot younger than us (like 19 or 20) crash at his house and have no curfews- but me, his actual gf has to be home at a certain time. Its upsetting me so much because he actually had an agrument with me once "oh, come on! your gonna be 25, why can't u sleep over". Does anyone else here have a similiar problems with controlling parents. They also check my mail, NEED to know where im going even if it is just to the store. If i don't tell them, they don't leave it be and nag me until i tell them where i was. Again, any ideas as i can't move out yet?...keep in mind my parents are hard to speak with
2006-07-05 11:45:03 · 10 answers · asked by hersheybar99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
While you are under your parent's roof,you have to respect them enough to follow their rules. If you don't like the situation and no longer want to live there then get a job, find a place and have a roomie to split the bills.
2006-07-05 11:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am on the other side of this question. I am 20 my g/f is 20. She still lives at home and has strict cerfews and what not but her family are strict moroms and they live by the code. A female doesnt need to be out of the house untill either A) shes married or B) shes past the time to get married and wasnt good enough to get out of the house. Now this is how I fixed the problem. We have been dating 4 years I love her to death. I bought a ring I asked her to marry me she said yes. I am not trying to find ous a house we can afford after the wedding in oct. Sorry this doesnt help you but Im just lettin you know their are people out there in the same situation. I AM IN NO WAY TELLING YOU TO MARRY THE GUY EITHER! having younger girls sleep at his house while your not their is just weird. you might want to lookinto this some more.
2006-07-05 11:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by Dane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man sorry to hear that but my suggestion get a job ASAP because that sucks big time. I remember when I finished college I went back to live with my mom because I was attending school somewhere else. Anyways I had the same problem she would nag nag nag all the time and I couldn't really go out. Until I moved out with my bf and well glad to say that we have a house and have been married for 4 years.
2006-07-05 11:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by clnavarro82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 24 and live with my parents if your parents weren't strict with you like they are do you think you would have your masters give it some time you'll find a job that pays you well and won't have to depend on them for money alot of people that get to do what they want are pregnant doing bad things if you bf loves you he will understand my bf he is supports me and we are going to get our own place he respects me and my family and your bf should too Good Luck I know sometimes its hard to understand what I just said because I been there
2006-07-05 11:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by nena24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you'll have to take a stand with your parents. Tell them that you respect them and the fact that they are allowing you to live with them until you get a job. Let them know that you appreciate that but you are a grown woman who has gone through college , gotten your masters degree and that shows that you are a responsible adult. You would like a little privacy and freedom.
Hopefully they will take it well. If not then I guess your only option is to move out.
2006-07-05 11:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wooooooooooooow u have a bigggggggg situation by being 25 and u have a curfew thats a first for me maybe its cuz u live with mommy and daddy and u have to follow by there rules or u get the boot!!!! and ur boyfriend having other girls stay the nite over his house aint jus rite talk to someone who will understand you and ur situations like ur parents even though there hard asses theyll still listen to you
2006-07-05 11:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hear it from me. you don't know how much you are lucky until you loose it.
at least there are people who care about you so much.
and yes there are many people in ur situation who grow up in a family of which father and mother understand what responsibilities mean. and it dosen't matter if you r 25 or 40, you still the little child to them.
2006-07-05 11:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY SIS IS 24,AND MOVES IN & OUT,SINCE THE AGE OF 17.OUR MOM IS VERY CONTROLLING TOO,WHENEVER WE GO 2 THE MOVIES OR MALL,SHE SAYS SHE HAS TO RUN ERRANDS.1ST OF ALL-YOUR B/F SHOULDN'T BE HAVING SLEEPOVERS WITH GIRLS.bUT U SHOULD TELL YOUR B/F THAT IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU HE'LL FIND A PLACE FOR THE BOTH OF U,AND SUPPORT YOU UNTIL YOU GET A JOB & BACK ON YOUR FEET.EVERY MAN SHOULD BE ABLE TO DO THIS.YOUR WORTH IT.
2006-07-05 11:54:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's OK, but if you want to get laid you need your own place. Chicks don't like people who live with their mommy and daddy.
2006-07-05 11:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you seen the movie failure to launch???? you should watch it
2006-07-05 11:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Justin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋