He broke my heart, then hooked up with a gurl...that is just...horrible for him...even tho they seem happy...but i want to tell him that through it all, i still have always loved him...advice please
2006-07-05 11:40:49 · 27 answers · asked by swimmerbaby2009 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he and i dated for a long time...he broke up with me and started dating my best friend...i still love him, and they are having problems that seem to be pointing to a breakup..advice
2006-07-05 11:43:43 · update #1
well it depends.. you just want him to know that even after all that happened you still love him.. or even after all that has happened.. you are still IN love with him...
it's hard.. I had a boyfriend who cheated on me.. not once.. but twice.. with the same girl.. and I still forgave him.. and even after all of it.. I can still look at him and say I love you.. I haven't seen him in about a year.. but I want to tell him how much I still love him..
I guess you would need to just say it.. but don't say it as in if his girlfriend finds out she will flip.. but that she would understand why you would say that..or you could just leave well enough alone.. and hope that he knows that you still love him.... when a guy breaks a girls heart.. he knows that deep down inside we still care for them.. it goes both ways
2006-07-05 11:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by duhblondeone 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are setting yourself up for another heartbreak. You don't love HIM, you love the whole idea of living happily-ever-after. If you really think you love him then I suggest you look back over your previous relationships for a trend. You appear to have some masochistic tendencies.
Think about it from another standpoint. If your best GF told you the things that you are saying what would you tell her? If you are a good friend you'd tell her to stay away from the jerk who broke her heart and find a man who loves her as much as she loves him. It is a waste of time and emotional effort to try to make someone love you when they don't.
Just out of curiosity, what kind of relationship expertise do you have that gives you the authority to decide that his current GF is "horrible for him?" Have you considered the notion that ANY girl he might be dating would be considered "horrible for him" by you....due to your jealousy? You consider YOURSELF to be the only girl to be good enough for him....but the fact of the matter still remains....he doesn't love you. If he DID he wouldn't have broken your heart or left you for someone else.
Bottom line: Respect yourself. Love YOURSELF. True love comes naturally to those who know themselves well and don't try to force something that isn't real. Life is too short to waste your time on the drama you are thinking of manufacturing. Don't do it.
2006-07-05 19:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by dancing_in_the_hail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait it out longer. Send Christmas cards to him and his family and just keep in touch throughout the years, but nothing romantic or mushy. That will just push him further away. Let him experience these horrible relationships and then one day when he is unhappy and looking back on it all he will realize you were the one all along that was caring about him and reliable always sending cards and being genuine. Then he will realize it was the best with you and that you really are the one for him. Just take your time and if you push it you WILL loose him.
2006-07-05 18:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by cutie pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I just got done going through that myself. Its rough, be prepared. Talk to him, let him know that your feelings are still very strong and you want to get back together...or even date and start something back up...if he really likes this girl then he might tell you no..and thats what you have to be prepared to face. There is a chance he still has feelings for you..but there is also a chance he does not. I took the risk and told him flat out that I wanted to be with him..and it worked. It was hell getting to this point so I wish you luck hun...and just be honest!
2006-07-05 18:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by LovableLibra84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you a question first before I answer. Honestly, would you be saying that if he had NOT hooked up with another girl? If he seems happy, let it be.
You can send him a letter stating your feelings and wishing him well in his new relationship - but don't meddle. It will only cause drama and heart-break all the way around.
2006-07-05 18:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
saying it out load will make you feel better but it wont make things better. so i suggest, just write an email for him, a letter, in which you tell him all the things that you want to, but then save it and dnt send it. if things didnt work out with him and his new gf or if u two ever hooked up again, give it to him, just for the sake of remembering old times. but dnt give it to him now that he has someone, even if they have problems. it would only hurt you more. trust me on that one (BEEN THERE, DONE THT!)
2006-07-05 18:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is to just tell him. It sounds like he has moved on and if he is happy then you will have to let it go. Remember that just because you want him back doesn't mean it will happen. If he isn't interested then move on.
2006-07-05 18:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by Adam F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, "I still love you!" But beware, some guys will take advantage of that and just **** you and then **** you over again. Your body and your heart are too different things. Let him know that your heart still belongs to him, but don't give him your body to proove it. Words matter, so choose them wisely. If he seems more interested in your pants than your heart, send him back to his current girlfriend.
2006-07-05 18:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by Dennis C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends do u want to get hurt cause he might say he doesn't love u just think it through the best revenge is moving on and finding someone else to love u for u.
2006-07-05 18:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be with him again, express your feelings. If you just want to tell him that you still love him then just tell him that. If you want to break them up and get back with him then just find a plan to. My advice in my opinion is to just get over him and find another boyfriend. If he has broken your heart you wouldnt want him to break it again would you?
2006-07-05 18:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by littlegrlsrock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋