Ok, so maybe I don't listen as well as I could, or don't put away a piece of paper that should be thrown away. But is that cause for getting a mirgraine and threatening divorce? Could this be a sign of menopause and I just have to bear with it? Sure could use another lady friend to talk to because the one I love at home hates to be around me.
2006-07-05 11:33:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
the way u wrote what u are feeling makes me think that u are not looking for a way to resolve the problem, but a justification to the way u are, an approval to things u do and a proof that it's not totally ur fault.
i don't think that it is ur fault. i'm sure it's not. but that is not enough and will not solve ur problem. i don't think that a short answer or even if it will be as long as possible will be a great help.
to my eyes what u both need is some support from the outside. a good consultant before it will be to hard to confront.
i would love to be a friend to u and feel free to pm me :)
to my eyes first step is to learn not to react to every word and every move even if from time to time it's really really hard.
good luck
2006-07-05 11:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by ♥sweetie♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have some major problems here. You both need to seek some counseling. Getting a professional outside source to look at your issues and give you suggestions would be the best. She shouldn't being getting that mad over not throwing a piece of paper away, but that's probably not the real reason she is upset. She's probably hurt and angry about something else (maybe the quality of your relationship) but doesn't know how to express that anger so finds other things to get angry about. If she has depression and migraines that is a very hard thing to live with. You both need to learn how to live with that and support eachother. Go to a counselor together and each see someone by yourselfs. If you both love eachother enough you'll both be willing to work on your relationship.
2006-07-05 11:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to go get a prescription for topamax. It's the ABSOLUTE best medicine for migraines and mood disorders and you also lose weight.
It will take her about a month for her to get get though the side effects, but all the side effect listed like tingly hands and feet go away in six weeks. Its well worth it. The first week is the worst, because you feel dumb and your thinking is slowed a bit.
She might complain about a bit of mental flatness, but even that comes back after 3 months. So much better than suffering though a migraine and this will take a lot of edge off her anger.
Also, she should get her bloold pressure checked and if high, be put on a beta blocker like Atenenol. That will help with her migraines too.
2006-07-05 11:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by Rockford 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's getting 'migraines' as an excuse. If she's getting them so frequently that it's now a leveraging tool, play back. Tell her you are worried about her health as *true* Migraines increse the risk of strokes significantly, and since she is getting so many, she should go see a neurologist. Offer to make the call for her. If she refuses, then you'll have caught her being melodramatic.
Migraines aren't something to be taken lightly and people who are getting them as she is stating should be on daily medicine and have reactive pills or injections. She also may need to have an IV treatment - they are very painful, but for true sufferers, can be a great help.
If she's just uninformed and getting simple headaches from your interactions, then it's time to seek the help of a therapist to see if they can help you work through it and save the marriage.
2006-07-05 11:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. My two cents is this. If she is actively seeking treatment and doing what needs to be done to get better than fine, if she refuses to get help then move on because your life will center around her issues.
I suffered with depression for years until I finally found the right doctor to diagnose a treatable disease.
The migranes is a different breed, but there are tons of meds available. Has she checked for allergies? Anyone getting a lot of migranes may have some major allergies.
Either way she needs to take hold of this situation and get help. You can go for so long, but the only thing is that misery loves company, and if you want to be happy you cannot live your life around this.
If she refuses to get help then walk.
2006-07-05 11:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by delzakiya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mirgraine sufferer, I have to say that I seriously doubt your slip-up over a piece of paper caused her migraine. Of course stress can cause them, but it sounds more like she's trying ti pin something on you. She can always go on a medication that will prevent the migraines. They work wonders.
2006-07-05 11:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ! firstly i have to say i think she does need to go to the doctor"s they could give her a course of prozac to help the depression & maybe some tablet"s for the mirgraine.
then ! if after a few month her indoor"s is still the same when you are around. i think it"s then the right time to sit down & talk thing"s over. because if she"s still the same after the medication then i think you know what the answer is ? don"t you ! but i wish you all the luck.
2006-07-05 11:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depression in women is difficult...the mood swings vary at the drop of a hat and sometimes the best thing to say is nothing...but then you get told your not listening then...she needs to get out and see the world for a bit...join a group of some sorts...even just walk...maybe she needs some alone time to try and sort out all the feelings...remember we lash out at those the closest ...why...because we can....not fair but true i agree with the lady that said to support but not hurt and yes, your feeelings are as important and emotional abuse is the worse form of abuse....try to key in on what shes angry about; usally its not what you think but something totally different
2006-07-05 11:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly_lashes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, well, well, what have we here? I can't believe I came upon your question, and have the opportunity to answer. Sometimes, it is easier to leave and get out than it is to love and stay. You have been married many years. I hope someday, I never have to deal with a problem like this. Well, you take care, and msg me sometime, Lopez4321 you know where, I'm sure.
2006-07-05 11:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by nemraC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs put on meds, take her to a doctor, tell them the symptoms, and maybe she can start living a better life, she has to be miserable, but it has nothing to do with you, she is just lashing out at you, simply because your there..good luck..
2006-07-05 11:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by ♥o_wise1♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋