I have been seeing this guy for about 13 months on and off now. I love him a lot and i want to be with him but i am not sure what to do. he tells me he loves me but i am not sure he does. Last year when i meet him he was married to a girl who was in jail and he did not tell me until after he and i got close. I dont know what to do please help me. I dont want to be hurt any more but i do love him and what to be with him but i am not sure. please if you are not going to help me dont put anything on this ok. I need help not more hurt
2006-07-05 11:13:55 · 32 answers · asked by suepooh23 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO he is not married to her now. It was over in Dec of 2005. I LOVE HIM remember that. AGE is just a number and he is a great guy i know lots of things about him and his family.
2006-07-05 11:41:37 · update #1
Follow ur heart baby girl.
The only thing dat does matter is love.
I'd like u to think about it well though, marriage is not something you just jump into.Cheers.
2006-07-05 11:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Deejay 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
BABY GIRL, as Judge Matthias can say look deep before you leap. trust me age does matter. he has already been where you are trying to get to. He has already experienced life, you are now just starting on your journey. I know the money seems good, for now, but what happens when the finances run out? what happens when you want to hang out with the gang, go skating,dancing, all the things young people like to experience.
when he says no he is not interested, he has already been there done that and it;s a waste of money to him. How will you then feel
How will you feel when he began to compare you to an older woman's experience. Think about the next 10 years you'll be in your prime mature enough to conquer the world, and as woman those are the years you began to flourish again. He will be 66 preparing for his return back to child hood, for the bible says once a man twice a boy, Are you really willing to change the baby diapers and your husbands depend at the same time,
some thing to think about. Remember LOVE is much more than an emotion. it's a commitment, until death due you apart.. It;s your life, your decision, Just weigh the cost, and you do the adding and see if it,s worth the money you are getting. for what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and loose his soul. Your choice, you choose LIfe or death!!!!! But I urge you to consider the matter prayerfully.
2006-07-05 11:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by MYSTERY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, anyone that would start your relationship with a lie, isn't good. Who's to say he would just keep lying or isn't still. As for his age, well, yeah age is a big deal when they are twice your age. What do you really have in common? I don't know that answer, only you can know... but really think about those things. And now regarding your saying you love him. If you "don't want to be hurt any more but (you) do love him...but (you are)not sure..." that should be a red flag right there. When ever you have any doubt like that, maybe it is time to step back, take a breather and write down all of the positves and the negatives with your relationship... and if after all of that, you have a million more positives and you have NO doubts, sure go for it. But if the doubt is still there, DON'T go through with the relationship. You have so much to live for, and lots of fun people to meet your age.
2006-07-05 11:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by gottaluvalaska 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a 56-year-old he sounds pretty immature. He was dishonest with you from the beginning and that is not a good way to start.
Age doesn't matter, but what does matter is the way he treats you. Is he still married? How long did he wait to divorce his wife? Did he cheat on his wife to be with you? Do you really think he would change?
Again, age doesn't matter, but his personality really does matter. This does not sound like a winner. You're young, you can do much better!
2006-07-05 11:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are looking for, unfortunately is a guarantee. Sorry, not in this life. Love and marriage is always a risk. Opinions are plentiful, so here is mine. The world is filled with trouble and strife, and love sure makes things easier to take. I believe in chasing love. Our forefathers believed in the pursuit of happiness. Best wishes and -Love Always
2006-07-05 11:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by RM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though he hasn't been honest with you from the start...I take it that he is still married to the girl who is in jail. Although age is not an issue here what is is his honesty. Please think carefully before going further with this individual. It is better that you find out all you can about this guy before you commit to him.
2006-07-05 11:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no there are guys more ur age this guy probley does not love u the thing is u need to know when the time is to move on u have more time to find someone more stable so what i say is move on n forget about him
2006-07-05 11:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by 1800Rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he is not telling you things until it will be okay for him. If you love him a lot, then nothing is stopping you. You are doubting him and yourself... and that would probably be the first thing you need to fix.
2006-07-05 11:21:06 · answer #8 · answered by fight for love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is not important. If you love him why not go for it. Have a long engagement if it makes you feel a little more secure.
2006-07-05 11:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend if he makes u happy and treats u like the queen that u r then marry him. Remember age dont mean sh*t it's how he teats u.
2006-07-05 11:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by tapthisphatazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DAMN he is old but its love so go ahead marry him it wont HURT my mother is 40 and my step dad is 90 but they are in love go marry him and soon you will have sex
2006-07-05 11:27:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋