Why does it feel life my father is trying to challenge me?

Question

He picks with me alot and i think that im going to run away or fight him.

Answer 1

normal for male teens to have this with dads. it's not fun.
but it won't last forever. try to suggest fun things to do that he likes to do. but there is no good solution. stay out of his way.

Answer 2

Because you're an easy target. He's not really picking on you. He's picking on your mother, on his boss, his coworkers and everyone else he can't fight back against.

Don't run away or fight him. People like that aren't listeners and they will make matters only worse.

If you are a minor, have you talked to your school counselor? A friend's parents or any other adult? I recommend that you do so, because what you're father is doing is emotional abuse, which can be in some ways worse than physical abuse.

Answer 3

Father is trying to be all that and a bag of chips. Challenging? HMMMM are you sure you're not misinterpreting abuse?

Avoid confrontations with your father...you'll get hurt in the process and DAD can get a visit to the local jail for abuse!!!

If things get out of hand...call 911...your dad will learn that challenging causes anger and anger will dominoe into an abusive actions that can well be avoided!

Answer 4

He cant face the fact that your growing up and he is retaliating in this way. Just wait for this phase to pass. Do the things you did as a kid. Ask him to show you how to do things he is good at. Pretend you have no knowledge of whatever he is good at doing.Kids go through alot of psychological changes and so do our parents. They go through the second childhood and then the third childhood. May be he has started his second childhood and sees you as a threat to him. In front of your mom he was the only man so far in the house, and now that your growing up,he is afraid you will be taking that place in your moms eyes. He wants to be the MAN. So let him be the boss and restrain your hormones and pretend to be intimidated by him.

Answer 5

Guess what,, my father does it too..
But be smart like me..

Here are some of my tactically:
1)use magic words when u talk to him,, ie. Yes sir,, yes my lord,, thanks for thanking me.. you are the best.. ( keep saying all the rich word for it)
2)Keep obeying him more than his expectation..
3)Use his weakness and his stupidity by knowledge.
4)Read more about his hobbies, so u can be in a higher skill position.
5)Fake and pretend that your strength or skills are purely from your dad.


Then he will end up relying on you and take you as his best friend as well as sharing his secrets with you.

Look at me now,, im richer than my father in all way, health, wealth and happiness..
And by the way, I still care about his health , his wealth and his happiness.
And it is true ,he made me think and be like this by one way or another..

So my friend.. you can do it.. just be assertive and he will surely collaborate .
;)

Answer 6

i hope you don't run away or fight him. i would not jump straight to abuse wihtout knowing the full situation. you might feel like he is challenging you for a lot of reasons. find another adult who you can trust who knows both of you and talk to them about it. sometimes teenagers and their parents just don't see eye to eye...in fact most of them don't. it does not last forever, but if you react like that, you may cause lifelong problems in your relationship, instead of just tension that gets better as you grow older and more mature. your dad might feel the same way about you! try talking to him about it in a respectful way...he may not really know how to talk to you...sometimes adults don't know how to interact with their teenage kids. Good Luck.

Answer 7

your father IS challenging you, to grow up otherwise he wouldnt be a good father

Answer 8

maybe it's the other way around your the challenger not him

Answer 9

Because he is a jerk like my dad always was and still kind of is

Answer 10

if you do decide to fight him .Im gonna remind you of this when he knocks yo a** out lol.