Feel guilty to send child to daycare?

Question

Does anyone here feel guilty for sending their child to daycare?
How do you deal with it?
I feel terrible I have to do it.
How did your childred adjust overtime to being in daycare?
Thank you

Answer 1

i did it yrs. ago and felt terrible/.cried almost all day long. finally, refused to let someone else take care of her and asked for partr-time work only and fmily members to come to my home to be with her. day-care is not good!!!!

Answer 2

I think everybody feels guilty sending their children to daycare but it is something that most of us have to do. I am fortunate enough to have a mom that doesn't work out of the home so she watches my son, but on the other hand, there are times that I wished he had gone to daycare from the start because when he started preschool, that was a hard transition for him. He was so used to always being around family or people that he knows and having everything for himself. So, when it came to school, he didn't want to play with the other kids because he didn't know them and he didn't want to share because he never has had to. If he was in daycare, he would have already learned all of those things and it wouldn't have been so hard on him. The younger they are when they go into daycare, the better.

Answer 3

I used 2 feel guilty taking my child 2 daycare. I used 2 think he was 2 young 4 that. But eventually the guilt faded b'cuz he loved it! He would get excited when it was time 2 go 2 daycare. It's all about finding the right 1. U must ensure that the daycare u take ur child 2 is up 2 ur standard, if not higher.

Answer 4

Most children adjust quite well to daycare. You may need to do some research to find the appropriate program for you and your child. Some children may learn better say at a church-based daycare, or a program like Kindercare. Wherever you send your child just make sure they are teaching worthwhile things instead of letting the kids do whatever all day. Don't feel guilty because obviously you need to work and you need your child to be safe. Make it a happy experience for your child to be dropped off to school. They do survive!

Answer 5

Hi, I'm sorry to hear about your dilemma. I honestly wasn't a fan of daycare until I met my best friend who is a remarkable "Super Nanny" and very well informed. Based on knowing her children and their abilities and enthusiasm for many subjects, I would recommend it even. Just a few days a week seems to give them a lot of stimulation, provided that you've researched and triple checked references. Rather than having your children at home watching tv (if you're doing other things rather than working with them on something) it can only be a good thing for learning and socialization. I know a woman now who was opposed to it. She tries to work from home with a 5 and 3 year old very active, needy girls. Impossible -- they just end up watching tv and running all over the house while she feels so stressed. So, in some cases (if you're not homeschooling) quality daycare can be a blessing. I pray you have peace in all your parental decisions because you obviously have great concern for your children and want what is best for them.

Answer 6

My wife was the same way. She actually worked at the daycare for a while before she would let them stay there. The kids really benefit from the interaction with other babies aside from the bout with the sniffles for a while. The good day cares are great for preparing them for school and takes them on field trips. Give it time and they will ask you to go to daycare and they don't want to stay home. As for you its hard at first but everyone needs intermittent breaks so you can feel like an adult.

Answer 7

I feel guilty about bringing my daughter to day care but I spent time finding one that I am really comfortable with. I know she gets things that I wouldn't be able to provide just myself there. She loves spending time with the other kids and she has become pretty attached to her teacher. I do not have family or friends close by so I wouldn't be able to rely on them for help. So I guess my answer is that I feel guilty but I look at all she is getting out of daycare. If I were taking her to a home based day care I would probably be more upset about it all.

Answer 8

I have a four year old who just graduated pre-k, I felt very guilty that she just got out of school for the summer and I had to turn right back around and stick her in a summer day care program from 8a-3p so I can work. I did feel guilty until I started hearing a whole bunch of other parents complaining that their children is stuck at home bored in front of the TV all summer.......that made me feel allot better, my daughter may be in daycare but it is confronting to know that she is in an environment where she is learning and having fun playing with other children.

Answer 9

I have two children who I just recently took out of the daycare. The daycare had taught my children lots of things. Some good and some bad. If a child (like mine) grows up in the daycare then its not traumatic for them. My children are well adjusted and can make friends easily. They also know how to stick up for themselves. You will feel terrible and all that you can do is tell yourself that they are in good hands. My children just recently started staying with my mother so I can tell you that it has been nice since she will take them to doctors and dentist appt's. Don't feel bad for doing what you have to do. Your not abusing them.

Answer 10

I felt guilty at first, but then I realized it was only so much that I could offer my child at home. She needed social skills, interacting with other children, as well as other developmental skills I couldn't provide.

In searching for a day care, I made cold calls on the daycares to see how they were actually run without knowing a parent was around. If they smelled funny, were dirty, or the administration wouldn't allow me to enter. I crossed them off my list.

The one I chose was clean, smelled good and offered a "free" day to allow my child to orientate prior to registration.

My child attended from age 2 until age 10 and now that she is 19 she has volunteered there and visits frequently.

I am grateful to the director who told me that my child would ultimately choose the day care not me which made the transition easier.

Answer 11

I think daycare is a wonderful place for children to go and meet other children. It teaches them valuable social skills that they won't learn being at home. Just make sure you have a reputable day care provider. Maybe find one that runs it sort of like a preschool, where the kids have fun and educational activities planned throughout the day.

Don't feel guilty about it.